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r4r - Redditor for Redditor Whether you're seeking platonic friends, non-platonic friends, online gaming partners, soulmates, travelmates, workout buddies, groups to join, activity partners, friends with benefits [fwb] etc. This is the place on Reddit to find and seek in the Austin, TX area.
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2020.11.26 14:58 Badi-VK M23 [Friendship] - Seeking friendship

Wassup people, if you think the whole online dating concept is a waste of time then plz read the rest. ( im gonna post this on other related subreddits cuz its gonne be my last presence here ).
First of all I LOVE YOU ALL AND YOU ARE ALL AMAZING NO MATTER WHAT YOU DID OR WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE.
So when it comes to reddit, i used it as a dating platform for a year now, but even so, people who use tinder and other similar apps faced the same problems.
We all faced 3 category of people in the online dating world : - N°1 : The online faggots : There's not much to say about them besides that these guys are the type of guys who made the word "Men" less meaningful and less powerful, they're complete no lifers and they just go online to harasse or ask filthy sexual shit from girls. where in real life they wouldn't have the courage to do so, most of them don't care about the girl's age or anything besides their desires and they're the reason why girls became so defensive online and men became less trust worthy so Hey girls, just block their existence and don't waste your precious time, they don't even deserve to be mentioned here.
- N°2 : Mostly girls; they only seek attention cuz their so mentally weak and they have nothing better to do, sometimes you find them write giant essays on how they're looking for their soulmate, their perfect one, the milk to their cereal, the salt to their pepper, the knife to their butter, The ying to their yang .when you start reading all that mumbo jumbo, you start thinking damn son she's exactly what i'm looking for lol, meanwhile in the other side she got bombarded with different kind of texts : the simp texts, the horny texts, the creep texts, threatening texts, they talk about their current lives and shitty past and future plans with the special one, but mostly they talk about their apparences in such details as if they were some sort of a product ( nice tactic to hunt these thirsty creeps ). these girls are the kind who ghost your ass in the first 2 days or first week at most, they get super bored and just lose interest faster than the new ps5 processor. all men met these kind of girls so i feel you bro, cut that online shit, wear your mask and go out fuck it. btw you're amazing
- N°3 : The legends ( Im in this category btw lol ); these type of people who just dont have the time to go out and meet people due to their busy schedule or they just didn't have the chance to meet the one they like ( losers lol ) ( jk ) so they switch online, they always hear from their friends or other people how they met their soulmate online and how they're so perfect to each other, they love similar stuff and hate similar crap, so they install dating apps and join dating groups hoping they find what they need. bruh next thing is they find people from category 1 and 2, they end up wasting their time with them, one is serious and willing to put the effort and time, meanwhile the other is just looking for attention or just bored. most people dont understand that for a healthy long lasting relationships it requires patience, trust, commitment, effort and most importantly good communication from both sides, not only from one side which is the case in online dating cuz we're all behind screens thinking we're safe from that face to face interaction. only 10% who were able to find their soulmate online. The other 90% couldn't find shit. - My advice for you both serious girls and boys : go out and meet people face to face, they act different, they respond different and they're more serious. if you dont have time to go out because of your busy life then you won't have time for a relationship either so just cut it out till you done with your life, no one is gonna run away so just be patient.
About me : Not gonna say much, I'm Badi, im 23, i study french literature in university and i made this post to clear up some thoughts and also cuz i wanted to be my last time posting and trying to find a meaningful relationship here. if you wanna get to know me more and you're willing to put the effort as much as i want to and become long term friends or even serious partners with time then text me up :) YOU ARE ALL ARE AMAZING and wish you a joyful life.
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2020.11.26 14:52 Badi-VK 23 [M4F] Anywhere - For serious people

Wassup people, if you think the whole online dating concept is a waste of time then plz read the rest. ( im gonna post this on other related subreddits cuz its gonne be my last presence here ).
First of all I LOVE YOU ALL AND YOU ARE ALL AMAZING NO MATTER WHAT YOU DID OR WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE.
So when it comes to reddit, i used it as a dating platform for a year now, but even so, people who use tinder and other similar apps faced the same problems.
We all faced 3 category of people in the online dating world : - N°1 : The online faggots : There's not much to say about them besides that these guys are the type of guys who made the word "Men" less meaningful and less powerful, they're complete no lifers and they just go online to harasse or ask filthy sexual shit from girls. where in real life they wouldn't have the courage to do so, most of them don't care about the girl's age or anything besides their desires and they're the reason why girls became so defensive online and men became less trust worthy so Hey girls, just block their existence and don't waste your precious time, they don't even deserve to be mentioned here.
- N°2 : Mostly girls; they only seek attention cuz their so mentally weak and they have nothing better to do, sometimes you find them write giant essays on how they're looking for their soulmate, their perfect one, the milk to their cereal, the salt to their pepper, the knife to their butter, The ying to their yang .when you start reading all that mumbo jumbo, you start thinking damn son she's exactly what i'm looking for lol, meanwhile in the other side she got bombarded with different kind of texts : the simp texts, the horny texts, the creep texts, threatening texts, they talk about their current lives and shitty past and future plans with the special one, but mostly they talk about their apparences in such details as if they were some sort of a product ( nice tactic to hunt these thirsty creeps ). these girls are the kind who ghost your ass in the first 2 days or first week at most, they get super bored and just lose interest faster than the new ps5 processor. all men met these kind of girls so i feel you bro, cut that online shit, wear your mask and go out fuck it. btw you're amazing
- N°3 : The legends ( Im in this category btw lol ); these type of people who just dont have the time to go out and meet people due to their busy schedule or they just didn't have the chance to meet the one they like ( losers lol ) ( jk ) so they switch online, they always hear from their friends or other people how they met their soulmate online and how they're so perfect to each other, they love similar stuff and hate similar crap, so they install dating apps and join dating groups hoping they find what they need. bruh next thing is they find people from category 1 and 2, they end up wasting their time with them, one is serious and willing to put the effort and time, meanwhile the other is just looking for attention or just bored. most people dont understand that for a healthy long lasting relationships it requires patience, trust, commitment, effort and most importantly good communication from both sides, not only from one side which is the case in online dating cuz we're all behind screens thinking we're safe from that face to face interaction. only 10% who were able to find their soulmate online. The other 90% couldn't find shit. - My advice for you both serious girls and boys : go out and meet people face to face, they act different, they respond different and they're more serious. if you dont have time to go out because of your busy life then you won't have time for a relationship either so just cut it out till you done with your life, no one is gonna run away so just be patient.
About me : Not gonna say much, I'm Badi, im 23, i study french literature in university and i made this post to clear up some thoughts and also cuz i wanted to be my last time posting and trying to find a meaningful relationship here. if you wanna get to know me more and you're willing to put the effort as much as i want to and become long term friends or even serious partners with time then text me up :) YOU ARE ALL ARE AMAZING and wish you a joyful life.
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2020.11.26 14:51 Badi-VK 30 [M4F] Anywhere - For serious people

Wassup people, if you think the whole online dating concept is a waste of time then plz read the rest. ( im gonna post this on other related subreddits cuz its gonne be my last presence here ).
First of all I LOVE YOU ALL AND YOU ARE ALL AMAZING NO MATTER WHAT YOU DID OR WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE.
So when it comes to reddit, i used it as a dating platform for a year now, but even so, people who use tinder and other similar apps faced the same problems.
We all faced 3 category of people in the online dating world :- N°1 : The online faggots : There's not much to say about them besides that these guys are the type of guys who made the word "Men" less meaningful and less powerful, they're complete no lifers and they just go online to harasse or ask filthy sexual shit from girls. where in real life they wouldn't have the courage to do so, most of them don't care about the girl's age or anything besides their desires and they're the reason why girls became so defensive online and men became less trust worthy so Hey girls, just block their existence and don't waste your precious time, they don't even deserve to be mentioned here.
- N°2 : Mostly girls; they only seek attention cuz their so mentally weak and they have nothing better to do, sometimes you find them write giant essays on how they're looking for their soulmate, their perfect one, the milk to their cereal, the salt to their pepper, the knife to their butter, The ying to their yang .when you start reading all that mumbo jumbo, you start thinking damn son she's exactly what i'm looking for lol, meanwhile in the other side she got bombarded with different kind of texts : the simp texts, the horny texts, the creep texts, threatening texts, they talk about their current lives and shitty past and future plans with the special one, but mostly they talk about their apparences in such details as if they were some sort of a product ( nice tactic to hunt these thirsty creeps ). these girls are the kind who ghost your ass in the first 2 days or first week at most, they get super bored and just lose interest faster than the new ps5 processor. all men met these kind of girls so i feel you bro, cut that online shit, wear your mask and go out fuck it. btw you're amazing
- N°3 : The legends ( Im in this category btw lol ); these type of people who just dont have the time to go out and meet people due to their busy schedule or they just didn't have the chance to meet the one they like ( losers lol ) ( jk ) so they switch online, they always hear from their friends or other people how they met their soulmate online and how they're so perfect to each other, they love similar stuff and hate similar crap, so they install dating apps and join dating groups hoping they find what they need. bruh next thing is they find people from category 1 and 2, they end up wasting their time with them, one is serious and willing to put the effort and time, meanwhile the other is just looking for attention or just bored. most people dont understand that for a healthy long lasting relationships it requires patience, trust, commitment, effort and most importantly good communication from both sides, not only from one side which is the case in online dating cuz we're all behind screens thinking we're safe from that face to face interaction. only 10% who were able to find their soulmate online. The other 90% couldn't find shit.- My advice for you both serious girls and boys : go out and meet people face to face, they act different, they respond different and they're more serious. if you dont have time to go out because of your busy life then you won't have time for a relationship either so just cut it out till you done with your life, no one is gonna run away so just be patient.
About me :Not gonna say much, I'm Badi, i study french literature in university and i made this post to clear up some thoughts and also cuz i wanted to be my last time posting and trying to find a meaningful relationship here.if you wanna get to know me more and you're willing to put the effort as much as i want to and become long term friends or even serious partners with time then text me up :)YOU ARE ALL ARE AMAZING and wish you a joyful life.
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2020.11.26 11:08 Techforgoodbrains How to be successful on dating apps

It had been six months since I was on dating apps. In those months, I had uninstalled the apps many a time out of frustration and exhaustion, but somehow I always crawled back and reinstalled them again and again.
There was always a ray of hope that the apps may work and I may find someone I click with. All of us have that one friend who has found love online giving us hope, isn't it? We believe that we too can have a fairytale. Yes, that was my wish too.
Here I share some hints on how to get maximum matches of your choice in a world where candidates are galore. Tbh, it is no secret and what really is necessary is to be precise and calculative. So let's start:
  1. Write down what you are looking for.
  2. Shortlist options with maximum alignment to your needs.
  3. Match with the selected options.
  4. Wait for reply.
  5. Initiate conversation with those who have responded.
  6. Match with the most compatible and go on a date.
Hope you too find your soulmate soon. xoxo
For more such posts, check out: https://goodbrain.substack.com/p/dating-apps-exhaust-you-heres-why
Best wishes!
V.
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2020.11.26 11:05 Techforgoodbrains How I got my perfect date

It had been six months since I was on dating apps. In those months, I had uninstalled the apps many a time out of frustration and exhaustion, but somehow I always crawled back and reinstalled them again and again.
There was always a ray of hope that the apps may work and I may find someone I click with. All of us have that one friend who is in a steady relationship with someone s/he met online giving us hope, isn't it? We believe that we too can have a fairytale. Yes, that was my wish too. And guess what? I made it possible.
Here I share some hints on how to get maximum matches of your choice in a world where candidates are galore. Tbh, it is no secret and what really is necessary is to be precise and calculative. So let's start:
  1. Write down what you are looking for.
  2. Shortlist options with maximum alignment to your needs.
  3. Match with the selected options.
  4. Wait for reply.
  5. Initiate conversation with those who have responded.
  6. Match with the most compatible and go on a date.
Hope you too find your soulmate soon. xoxo
For more such posts, check out: https://goodbrain.substack.com/p/dating-apps-exhaust-you-heres-why
Best wishes!
V.
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2020.11.26 11:05 Techforgoodbrains How I found love on dating apps

It had been six months since I was on dating apps. In those months, I had uninstalled the apps many a time out of frustration and exhaustion, but somehow I always crawled back and reinstalled them again and again.
There was always a ray of hope that the apps may work and I may find someone I click with. All of us have that one friend who is in a steady relationship with someone s/he met online giving us hope, isn't it? We believe that we too can have a fairytale. Yes, that was my wish too. And guess what? I made it possible.
Here I share some hints on how to get maximum matches of your choice in a world where candidates are galore. Tbh, it is no secret and what really is necessary is to be precise and calculative. So let's start:
  1. Write down what you are looking for.
  2. Shortlist options with maximum alignment to your needs.
  3. Match with the selected options.
  4. Wait for reply.
  5. Initiate conversation with those who have responded.
  6. Match with the most compatible and go on a date.
Hope you too find your soulmate soon. xoxo
For more such posts, check out: https://goodbrain.substack.com/p/dating-apps-exhaust-you-heres-why
Best wishes!
V.
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2020.11.26 11:03 Techforgoodbrains You can find your soulmate too

It had been six months since I was on dating apps. In those months, I had uninstalled the apps many a time out of frustration and exhaustion, but somehow I always crawled back and reinstalled them again and again.
There was always a ray of hope that the apps may work and I may find someone I click with. All of us have that one friend who is in a steady relationship with someone s/he met online giving us hope, isn't it? We believe that we too can have a fairytale. Yes, that was my wish too. And guess what? I made it possible.
Here I share some hints on how to get maximum matches of your choice in a world where candidates are galore. Tbh, it is no secret and what really is necessary is to be precise and calculative. So let's start:
  1. Write down what you are looking for.
  2. Shortlist options with maximum alignment to your needs.
  3. Match with the selected options.
  4. Wait for reply.
  5. Initiate conversation with those who have responded.
  6. Match with the most compatible and go on a date.
Hope you too find your soulmate soon. xoxo
Best wishes!
V.
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2020.11.25 08:15 FurMevyn 31[T4R] Enby Nerd Seeks Their Soulmate! ♡

Hello there! My name is Ash, and I'm a 31-year-old nonbinary nerd from the middle-of-nowhere, Iowa. I'm gettin' to be a little too old for goin' out, and frankly, I don't much like doing so if I can help it regardless. I get most of my socialization online, and spend a lot of my free time playing Dungeons & Dragons, Final Fantasy XIV, and a handful of other social or party games through Steam. (Like Uno!)
I'm hoping to find my soulmate, if I'm being perfectly honest. Someone with whom I can share all of my little observations, silly thoughts, insecurities, and goals. Maybe even someone I can have absurd online dates with, movie nights, playin' our MMOs together, etc. I'm probably being a little too much of a hopeless romantic, but I'm too stubborn to change that!
Full disclosure: I'm AMAB, and present masculine in person, but identify as NB and behave as such online.
I look forward to hearing from you. <3
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2020.11.24 06:20 Amazing-Dust2888 I (25F) have a strange relationship with an ex (26M) that has been going on for 9 years. Is it love bombing? Thoughts?

Hey so me and this guy (let’s call him Sam), dates when we were 16/17. We were insanely in love and the relationship was very very intense. Like “I would die without you.” We were both very messed up and would often self harm and then the other would run over and help bandage the other up (gross ik). His parents were very strict and we had to sneak out to see each other and write hand written letters to communicate sometimes. He then ended up breaking up with me and moving to another city after he finished high school. I was heart broken, but got over it kinda.
Since then we have kept in contact and been on/off for 9 years. We have both been in a few relationships and whenever one of us (usually me) gets out of a relationship we will meet up and have an intense quick love affair. We have always chatted online sending nudes and dramatic love messages over those 9 years too.
He’s always been someone who loves women. He loves to come across as this miserable angsty mysterious boy. He’s always had a bunch of “fan girls” who comment on his photos about how beautiful he is. He takes dramatic frowning selfies and never opens up much about how he actually feels about anything. When he sends me messages they’re all like “I love you so much I want to cry” “marry me beautiful woman” “you are perfection I love you so much” everything is dramatic. He never asks how my day was or about things going on in my life. He never really wants to have a conversation. He just likes sending photos of himself or he loves sexting. He will not reply for days and then send a selfie and won’t reply to my reply etc.
In person he is very different, he’s a lot more present and is capable of really good intelligent conversation. He’s interested in me and my life and we have such a wonderful time together. He’s not as intense in person either. He takes care of me and goes out of his way to look after me. We are both very similar too and have a lot on common.
I haven’t really thought too much about this weird thing we have as I’ve never been obsessed, jealous or cared too much. I was usually always seeing someone else too to distract me so I would also stop replying to him, ignore him, tease him then become disinterested until I was bored, so please note I’m not much different to Sam. However I’ve just gotten back from visiting him a few weeks ago and I feel like I fell in love with him all over again and now I can’t stop thinking about him and if he actually does love me or if he just loves this intense mysterious thing? I don’t want to ask him as I don’t want to come across like I care too much.
Do you think he’s love bombing me and is probably sending the exact same messages to other women too? I always thought I was special but maybe not. He drove 7 hours to come down and see me in June and I didn’t even sleep with him (was going through a rough time with an ex), and yet he was still interested in me. I’m just very confused about what this is now that I have more time to think about it.
Tl;dr: have a strange relationship with a guy spanning 9 years and not sure if I am special to him or if I’m just another girl he enjoys “love bombing” and creating a mysterious intense thing with.
Edit: I honestly do love him and have genuine feelings. I think I always will. Sometimes I do think we are soulmates because no matter what we keep coming back to each other. But is this fake? Am I being played and he doesn’t feel the same?
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2020.11.23 09:59 FurMevyn 31[T4R] Enby Nerd Seeks Their Soulmate! ♡

Hello there! My name is Ash, and I'm a 31-year-old nonbinary nerd from the middle-of-nowhere, Iowa. I'm gettin' to be a little too old for goin' out, and frankly, I don't much like doing so if I can help it regardless. I get most of my socialization online, and spend a lot of my free time playing Dungeons & Dragons, Final Fantasy XIV, and a handful of other social or party games through Steam. (Like Uno!)
I'm hoping to find my soulmate, if I'm being perfectly honest. Someone with whom I can share all of my little observations, silly thoughts, insecurities, and goals. Maybe even someone I can have absurd online dates with, movie nights, playin' our MMOs together, etc. I'm probably being a little too much of a hopeless romantic, but I'm too stubborn to change that!
Full disclosure: I'm AMAB, and present masculine in person, but identify as NB and behave as such online.
I look forward to hearing from you. <3
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2020.11.22 23:34 ConceptLarge Did I already ruin this by asking too late?

Trying to recap without writing too much so it won't get lost.
I (25) met a girl (29) on a dating app. We hit it off well talking and it was interesting. She gave me her number and we continued talking. Then she asked me what I wanted, I said I was ideally looking for my soulmate, but I know I won't necessarily find her on a dating app, so I don't for a friendship or something in between. She said she wanted nothing other than a serious relationship. We agreed that we're looking for the same thing and continued.
I asked her out (to my place due to the lockdown) and we had already talked about our love for cooking. And she wanted to try a dish that I had mentioned before. Got everything ready, wine, candles, food. She got a gin bottle because we both said we enjoyed gin and tonic and she got brownies. She came on time and we had fun and everything was super good. I had told her I don't drink much and never reached about of being "drunk". Ended up drinking a lot and mixed so much to the point that I got beyond the normal tipsy state for me. We went to sit on the couch, started watching a movie, and cuddling. So far so good.
Then I blacked out. I don't remember what happened at that point just mental flashes. I know i didn't step over the line because deep down I'm really a shy person that generally wouldn't make the first move. At some point I regained consciousness and she said that she had to go home because she had work the next day (it was a work night). I told her she shouldn't drive and she can stay the night and we won't do anything sexual, she said she still wanted to leave. So I walked her to the car and stayed up till she got home safely. Then I went to bed.
The next day I apologized for what happened, and she said she didn't mind. It was nice and she enjoyed the cuddling and she liked that this was like an adventure (she's really into adventures). Asked if her day is going okay, if she's not too hung over. She said she was a little tired but okay. Later that day, I asked if she had any plans. She said her plans and asked about mine. I said mine and that was it.
3rd day I didn't text, hoping that she would. I didn't want to be nagging and I didn't want to seem desperate.
4th day I texted her saying I had so much fun and wanted to ask if she'd like to meet again. She's been online a couple of times since then but hasn't replied. I want to say that since we started texting, we've been texting on a daily basis. I've been opening the conversations, she didn't really start any. But she has never really left me on read, or even left me sending the last message. She'd always finish it off even if my last reply was "okay".
When i told my roommate (f) that I texted her that and she hasn't replied she was surprised that I had waited till the 4th day, and that I should've texted her straight away.
Did I just fuck up? I know it sounds trivial but my dating game is really weak. I only had one relationship that lasted for 4 years and even that my ex sorta cornered me into a relationship.
Should I do something about this or just wait? I wanna say that I'd like to see her again because I enjoyed this and I find that she has a nice personality and she's really aware which I find attractive. But I wouldn't mind a rejection. Like I just hate being in the dark.
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2020.11.22 17:26 LarsaFerrinasSolidor What would a sustainable model for a "new old OkCupid" look like?

It's pretty clear that most of us here mourn the progressive decline of OkCupid since its sale to the Match group, and the outright tinderization of OkCupid in May 2020, as OkCupid was the "last of its kind".
Let's do a thought experiment. What's the alternative from a business standpoint when the overwhelming majority of people don't want to pay for online dating (it's just human nature, I think, or having been burned too many times), and when, from a "UX design" and "engineering simplicity" standpoint the Doubletake (mutual likes, aka Tinder system) is a fairly logical solution to the "women have overflowing inboxes that lead them to hide in a corner in a foetal position" problem?
Let's imagine a scenario where no investors and no corporate greed are involved, and OkCupid was run in the benefit of users to help them find a soulmate rather than to "keep swiping/messaging" only for the business' bottomline. I know that's hard to imagine but humor me for a minute (or imagine an anarcho-syndicalist commune if that helps). How would you see a compelling, sustainable business model, work in this case, while solving the problems the platform had?
If you saw OkCupid going back to its roots (or something like the old OkCupid but improving on its flaws), what features/perks would you be willing to pay for monthly and how much? Because let's be real, if we expect them to run all of it for free forever, usually that doesn't* work (in part because of corporate greed, but let's not just blame that); just look at how many damned silicon valley startups have this business model:
  1. Start collecting free users, with no business income plan, let's that figure out later lol!
  2. ???
  3. Venture Capitalism fundraise into unicorn status!!
  4. Run out of runway (go down in flames), or get taken over by the VCs (become evil/greedy or change to a completely different business or offering) or get acquired by OmegaCorp™
*: I've seen purely non-profit open-source clone platform attempts in the past, and they are hard to pull off. Case in point: CouchSurfing vs BeWelcome (great idea, great community, but never really took off; the platform has also been quite convoluted to use from a UX standpoint, at least for the first 12 years of its existence).
Bonus question: besides the "inbox overwhelm" problem, what "didn't work well" in the old OkCupid? How do you turn online dating from "dreadful shitwork" to an enjoyable "it just works" for users?
Let's look at this from a constructive perspective, even if it remains just purely theoretical. Let's avoid "don't bother, Match Group won't ever bring the old OkCupid back" comments, those won't help. Blue sky (but realistic) scenarios, for the sake of having an interesting discussion.
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2020.11.22 16:21 blue-green_eyes Sims 4 (Not a Legacy) Modern Fairy Tale Challenge

I decided to make a different kind of challenge for people looking to explore the game packs but looking for something other than a legacy challenge. I’m using some familiar fairy tales but “simified.” These are loosely based on the original fairy tales, not Disney’s version.
Rules/Setup: 1. Turn Aging Off for Played and Unplayed Households. You always have the option to age sims up manually as you need to (or if you simply want to). 2. If you don’t have the pack for certain traits/aspirations/careers etc. then just ignore it or swap it out with something of your choice you think is appropriate for the character. 3. Create as many of the households you want to play at once and move them into the world before you start. This way the different characters can meet, interact, and befriend, make enemies of, or fall in love with each other. Admittedly, there’s a lot of households (18 households, 38 sims) because I wanted to give lots of options for you to play with. So if you get burnt out creating them just create a handful and play them and create the other households later. Some households have goals connected to another household (like Red Riding Hood and the Wolf), so if you do a handful at a time make sure you include the ones specifically connected. 4. Name them whatever you want, it doesn’t have to be their original fairy tale names, these are just modern versions of the characters inspired by the fairy tales. You can even play around with some gender swapping. Feel free to mess with what happens after they complete their goals, half the princes are already fickle. Just because you might date or marry a prince doesn’t mean you have to end up with him. 5. You do not have to play the families in order. The ultimate goal is to complete each storyline but the order in which you do it is up to you. If you want, you can jump around to different families, you don’t have to finish the goals of one family before working on another. Especially if you’re getting bored. Additionally, goals are not listed in order. You can complete them in whatever order works. 6. If it’s not specified, it’s up to you. Which worlds to live in, extra lot traits, buying reward traits, which careers to join, which person to marry, etc. are up to your discretion. The rules are just general guidelines to give you a story to work with. 7. I intentionally have not put “no mods or cheats allowed” in the rules. Feel free to use all the mods and cheats you want. Too hard? Make it easier. Too easy? Make it harder. Up to you.
The Fairy Tale Households: ——————————————————————————— Skin white as snow, lips red as blood, hair black as ebony... wait, are you sure we aren’t describing a vampire? In this world we are, Snow White is an immortal vampire and fairest of them all, but she longs to fight her thirst and be good. Meanwhile, her stepmother is jealous of the beauty that surpasses her own, and stirs her cauldron trying to discover the perfect poison- I mean potion, that will solve her problems.
Freerealestate on and one motherlode allowed once upon move-in.
Snow White - Young Adult Vampire Sim with Good, Romantic, and Bookworm traits, Soulmate aspiration (for the alluring trait) - Switch to Good Vampire aspiration once in game
Goals: - Once the Evil Queen completes her goals move in with the Seven Dwarves but take no household funds with you - Earn a Pristine Reputation - Have your first kiss with a Prince Charming - Complete the Good Vampire aspiration
Evil Queen - Young Adult or Adult Spellcaster Sim with Evil, Self-Absorbed, and Jealous traits, Public Enemy aspiration (for the dastardly trait) - Switch to Purveyor of Potions aspiration once in game
Goals: - Make Snow White an enemy - Woohoo with a Prince Charming - Earn at least an Awful Reputation - Purchase the Beguiling Reward Trait - Complete the Purveyor of Potions aspiration
——————————————————————————— A house full of seven men, good friends depending on each other and living off the land. With a home so crowded, is there really room for one more?
Lot must have the off-the-grid trait. You may use freerealestate on once upon move in. Starting household funds must be only 700 simoleons.
Seven Dwarves - Choose the ages between Young Adult-Elder - The seven aspirations are Leader of the Pack, Master Maker, Archaeology Scholar, Outdoor Enthusiast, Angling Ace, Jungle Explorer and The Curator aspirations - You may choose your own traits for each of them
Goals: - The only goal for the dwarves is to complete the aspirations for each of them
——————————————————————————— Cinderella just wants to dance, party and have a good time. Her Stepmother and Stepsisters make her life hard enough at home, but she’s too stubborn to move out and forfeit her claim on inheriting her family’s house. Can she attend the parties she wants without her family noticing?
Lot trait required is filthy. You may use freerealestate on once upon move in. Starting household funds must be only 1,500 simoleons.
Cinderella - Young Adult Sim with Music Lover, Dance Machine, and Dog Lover traits, Party Animal aspiration - Responsible for all the cooking, cleaning, gardening, etc. at home
Goals: - Adopt a stray dog and fully train him/her, step-family must never find the dog or they will put it up for adoption. - Earn at least a Great Reputation - Complete the Party Animal aspiration - Have your first WooHoo with a Prince Charming
Wicked Stepmother - Elder Sim with Snob, Materialistic, and Mean traits, Mansion Baron aspiration
Goals: - Earn a negative relationship with Cinderella - Move in with daughter who marries a rich sim
Wicked Stepsister One - Young Adult Sim with Mean, Ambitious, and Slob traits, Public Enemy aspiration (for the dastardly trait) - Switch to Fabulously Wealthy aspiration once in game
Goals: - Earn a negative relationship with Cinderella - Marry and move in with a rich Sim
Wicked Stepsister Two - Young Adult Sim with Mean, Squeamish, and Self-Absorbed traits, Chief of Mischief aspiration (for the dastardly trait) - Switch to World Famous Celebrity aspiration once in game
Goals: - Earn a negative relationship with Cinderella - Move in with sister who marries a rich sim - Have an affair with your sister’s husband
Note: The Stepmother and Stepsisters are intentionally left with few goals, giving you more creativity with what careers or goals they should pursue (if any, they may just want to be lazy and dependent on Cinderella). You are not required to actually complete any of their aspirations, just their goals.
——————————————————————————— The Little Mermaid has a recently acquired ability to go on land and she’s eager to explore and find her one true love she’s always dreamed about. But she’s coming from the ocean with no job, house, or money. However will she make it out here?
Move into an empty lot, cheat money to zero.
The Little Mermaid - Young Adult Mermaid Sim with Child of the Ocean, Clumsy, and Art Lover traits, Soulmate Aspiration - Optional: You may cheat to give her max singing skill as her only starting skill
Goals: - Have a Prince Charming as a boyfriend and move in with him (Marriage is also an option) - Breakup with/Divorce your Prince Charming and run away (move out) if you ever catch him cheating on you. Move in with your closest friend after the breakup. - Complete the Soulmate Aspiration (doesn’t have to be with another prince, but it can be)
——————————————————————————— Sleeping Beauty keeps to herself thanks to her curse, it feels like she hasn’t really socialized in about 100 years. She just stays in her room and sleeps most of the time, she loves a good nap. When she isn’t sleeping she’s working on her novels, mostly stories based on her dreams.
Lot traits required are cursed and private dwelling. Freerealestate on and two motherlodes allowed once upon move-in.
Sleeping Beauty - Young Adult Sim with Lazy, Loner, and Perfectionist traits, Bestselling Author Aspiration - Due to your curse you cannot leave your home for any reason until the curse is broken.
Goals: - Complete the Bestselling Author aspiration - First kiss with a Prince Charming will break the curse (you may remove the cursed lot trait and are allowed to leave the lot or move out)
Note: if you’re wondering how she can meet Prince Charming you have two options: Play as the Princes and go to her, or Sleeping Beauty has the Internet and might be able to meet one online and invite him over. (SimDa Dating App mod could work too).
——————————————————————————— Beauty moved in with Beast to keep him company, and while she’s at it she works on a means for them both to escape. Beast is concerned about his monstrous nature he was cursed with and seeks a cure but is unable to leave the castle until he finds it. He refuses to ever hurt Beauty. Will these two break the curse and find love along the way?
Lot traits required are cursed and private dwelling. Freerealestate on and two motherlodes allowed once upon move in.
Beauty - Young Adult Sim with Good, Bookworm, and Maker traits, Nerd Brain aspiration - You are allowed to leave the lot
Goals: - Complete the Nerd Brain aspiration - Max out the Vampire Lore skill - After completing your aspiration, mix the Ultimate Vampire Cure for Beast
Beast - Young Adult Vampire Sim with Good, Loner, and Gloomy traits, Freelance Botanist aspiration - Due to your curse you cannot leave your home for any reason until the curse is broken.
Goals: - Grow a perfect flower garden - Complete the Freelance Botanist aspiration - Drink the Ultimate Vampire Cure made by Beauty (may remove cursed lot trait after doing so) - Marry Beauty
——————————————————————————— Why do these two fairies on opposite ends of the spectrum live together when they can’t stand each other? I don’t know. They frequently duel each other, but maybe that’s their thing? One good and one evil, both honing their fey magic in an attempt to become superior.
Freerealestate on allowed once upon move in. No extra money cheats.
Evil Fairy - Young Adult Spellcaster Sim with Evil, Hates Children, and Hot-Headed traits, Chief of Mischief aspiration
Goals: - Earn an atrocious reputation - Make an enemy of Sleeping Beauty - Make an enemy of Beauty - Make an enemy of Beast - Reach Overmax Spellcaster level - Complete Chief of Mischief aspiration
Good Fairy - Young Adult Spellcaster Sim with Good, Noncommittal, and Creative traits, Friend of the World aspiration
Goals: - Earn a pristine reputation - Become good friends with Sleeping Beauty - Become good friends with Beauty - Become good friends with Beast - Reach Overmax Spellcaster level - Complete Friend of the World aspiration
——————————————————————————— High in a tower, Rapunzel longs to see and experience the world outside her window, but her overprotective “Mother” won’t let her past the door. Will Rapunzel ever be able to fulfill her dreams?
Required lot: Any apartment/penthouse in San Myshuno. Freerealestate on allowed once upon move in. No extra money cheats.
Rapunzel - Young Adult Sim with Cheerful, Geek, and Neat traits, City Native aspiration - While living with Dame Gothel, you cannot leave the apartment.
Goals: - Purchase the Fertile reward trait - First kiss and woohoo with a Prince Charming - Become pregnant by Prince Charming after purchasing the fertile reward trait (in the second trimester this will upset Dame Gothel enough she will kick you out, and you may move out with 0 simoleons) - Complete the City Native aspiration
Dame Gothel - Adult Spellcaster Sim with Hot-Headed, Cat Lover, and Kleptomaniac traits, Spellcraft and Sorcery aspiration
Goals: - Complete the Spellcraft and Sorcery aspiration - Make an enemy of anyone you catch with Rapunzel (preferably making them miserable with spells) - Own a black cat as a familiar
Note: If wondering how Rapunzel will meet Prince Charming if she can’t leave the lot, see the note under Sleeping Beauty for options.
——————————————————————————— These three brothers are some of the most attractive and charming eligible bachelors in all the lands, it also doesn’t hurt that the Princes are filthy rich. But with an uneven ratio of fair maidens to princes, will they ever settle down?
Freerealestate on and three motherlodes allowed once upon move in.
Prince Charming(s) - 3 Young Adult Sims - All 3 with the Romantic and Bro traits, the third trait is your choice - One has the Soulmate aspiration, the other two have the Serial Romantic aspiration
Goals: - Complete their aspirations and maintain at least a Good reputation
——————————————————————————— The Frog Prince is a bit odd looking, but very polite. All he wants is to win the heart of his princess. Unfortunately, she’s a little hard to woo. But he refuses to give up. Can he win her over?
Must be a pond on the property. No extra money cheats.
The Frog Prince - Young Adult Alien Sim with Active, Proper, and Loves the Outdoors traits, Bodybuilder aspiration (for the High Metabolism trait) - Switch to the Soulmate aspiration once in game - You are cursed to stay in your alien form until you marry the Princess, at which point you are allowed to wear your human disguise
Goals: - Gain the Princess’s friendship and love enough that she lets you move in with her. - Achieve the Soulmate aspiration with the Princess
——————————————————————————— The Princess is a bit eccentric, but everyone loves her anyway. Especially the Frog Prince, who seems convinced she’s the one while she feels no particularly way about him. Can she achieve her own dreams of fame?
Freerealestate on and five rosebud’s allowed once upon move in.
The Princess - Young Adult Sim with Childish, Squeamish, and Unflirty traits, World Famous Celebrity aspiration
Goals: - Reach the top of your chosen career - Achieve the World Famous Celebrity aspiration
——————————————————————————— Rumpelstiltskin is a mischievous imp, with a proclivity for causing trouble. Will he get his wish to cause chaos? Or will he eventually decide to settle down? A certain Miller’s daughter has caught his attention...
Freerealestate on and 3 rosebud’s allowed once upon move in.
Rumpelstiltskin - Young Adult or Adult Alien Sim with Mean, Childish, and Self-Assured traits, Chief of Mischief aspiration
Goals: - Complete the Chief of Mischief Aspiration - Earn at least an awful reputation - Purchase Money Tree seeds to gift to the Miller’s daughter - Try for a Baby with the Miller’s Daughter
——————————————————————————— The King heard a rumor that the Miller’s daughter could grow money from a tree and had her move in with him. He keeps her locked away and plans to marry her if she can grow the trees, but someone has figured out how to sneak in to see her...
Freerealestate on and one motherlode allowed once upon move in.
Miller’s Daughter - Young Adult Sim with Gloomy, Family-Oriented, and Paranoid traits, Super Parent aspiration - You are not allowed to leave the lot until you marry the King
Goals: - Grow the money tree seeds Rumplestiltskin gives you - Don’t let the King find out about Rumplestiltskin - Become pregnant by Rumplestiltskin - Complete the Super Parent aspiration
The Greedy King - Adult or Elder Sim with Snob, Unflirty, and Materialistic traits, Fabulously Wealthy aspiration
Goals: - Marry the Miller’s Daughter after she grows at least one money tree - Complete the fabulously wealthy aspiration
——————————————————————————— Red Riding Hood was sent to live with her elderly Grandmother who thinks her granddaughter is a little angel. But Red is of the age to be obsessed with boys and wants to experience what the world has to offer, can she do it without her Grandmother finding out?
No extra money cheats allowed.
Red Riding Hood - Teen Sim with Romantic and Snob traits, Serial Romantic aspiration - Cannot been seen by Grandmother with a boy - Must adhere to curfew
Goals: - First kiss (and/or mess around) with the Wolf - Complete the Serial Romantic aspiration with other boys in town - High school grade cannot drop below a C (but doesn’t have to be an A)
Grandmother - Elder Sim with Family Oriented, Paranoid, and Loner traits, Lady of the Knits aspiration
Goals: - Set a 9pm curfew for Red Riding Hood - Complete the Lady of the Knits Aspiration
——————————————————————————— The Big Bad Wolf is not a nice guy. He only cares about food, romance, and getting what he wants.
No extra money cheats allowed.
Wolf - Teen (Optional: Young Adult if you use mods) Sim with Evil and Glutton (and Romantic) traits, Bodybuilder aspiration
Goals: - Mess around with Red Riding Hood - Complete the Bodybuilder aspiration - Earn at least a bad reputation
——————————————————————————— Bluebeard is rich and eligible for marriage. There are rumors he’s been married before but no one knows what may have happened to his wife... or wives...
Freerealestate on and two motherlodes allowed once upon move in.
Bluebeard - Adult Sim with Evil, Ambitious, and Jealous traits, Public Enemy aspiration
Goals: - Keep the urns/graves of your former spouses in a basement - Keep the basement locked while you are on the lot. If you leave the lot, unlock the basement. If your current spouse goes inside the basement of their own free will while you are away, lock them inside until they die. - Get married and outlive your spouse at least 5 times - Complete the Public Enemy aspiration
——————————————————————————— Jack is the extreme sort of troublemaker, and drives his poor single mother to distraction. Will Jack be able to stay in school and get his fill of adventure or will he drop out? Will his mother be able to achieve her own dreams with Jack trying to drain her resources?
No extra money cheats allowed.
Jack (of Jack and the Beanstalk) - Teen Sim with Kleptomaniac and Adventurous traits, Extreme Sports Enthusiast aspiration
Goals: - Achieve level 10 Mischief skill - Complete the Extreme Sports Enthusiast aspiration
Jack’s Mother - Adult Sim with Materialistic, Lazy, and Unflirty traits, Master Mixologist aspiration
Goals: - Achieve the Master Mixologist aspiration
——————————————————————————— Hansel and Gretel are an orphan pair of twins, with the unfortunate luck of being adopted by an old woman who ironically hates children. At first she was really sweet to them, but now she keeps Hansel stuck in his room and makes Gretel do most of the housework. But at least she feeds them...
Freerealestate on allowed on move in. No extra money cheats.
Hansel - Child Sim with the Glutton trait, Rambunctious Scamp aspiration - You are confined to your room when the Witch is at home
Goals: - Become best friends with Gretel - Complete the Rambunctious Scamp aspiration - Once you and Gretel have completed your aspirations, you may age into a teen and run away (move out) with Gretel
Gretel - Child Sim with the Gloomy trait, Artistic Prodigy aspiration - You are responsible for cleaning around the house but are not confined to a room
Goals: - Become best friends with Hansel - Complete the Artistic Prodigy aspiration - Once you and Hansel have completed your aspirations, you may age into a teen and run away (move out) with Hansel
Hansel and Gretel Witch - Elder Spellcaster Sim with Hates Children, Foodie, and Evil traits, Master Chef aspiration
Goals: - Complete the Master Chef aspiration - Max out the Baking skill - Once you have enough funds, quit the culinary career and open a bakery business on your home lot
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2020.11.22 01:02 FurMevyn 31[T4R] Enby Nerd Seeks Their Soulmate! ♡

Hello there! My name is Ash, and I'm a 31-year-old nonbinary nerd from the middle-of-nowhere, Iowa. I'm gettin' to be a little too old for goin' out, and frankly, I don't much like doing so if I can help it regardless. I get most of my socialization online, and spend a lot of my free time playing Dungeons & Dragons, Final Fantasy XIV, and a handful of other social or party games through Steam. (Like Uno!)
I'm hoping to find my soulmate, if I'm being perfectly honest. Someone with whom I can share all of my little observations, silly thoughts, insecurities, and goals. Maybe even someone I can have absurd online dates with, movie nights, playin' our MMOs together, etc. I'm probably being a little too much of a hopeless romantic, but I'm too stubborn to change that!
Full disclosure: I'm AMAB, and present masculine in person, but identify as NB and behave as such online.
I look forward to hearing from you. <3
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2020.11.21 07:21 Potential-Area-209 When is a cheater really sorry?

Hi guys...I don’t know if this is even worth posting but I’m feeling very conflicted...
As the title implies, I recently found out my boyfriend of a year that was in the process of moving in with me has been cheating on me. I don’t believe he has actually slept with anyone but I do believe he has gone on a date with at least one woman and has said sexual things to multiple women online, mostly via Snapchat. Typically that would be enough for me to just end it (my ex cheated too and it hurt but I was able to break up firmly) but for some reason from the very beginning I just felt this man was my soulmate. This was a lot coming from me considering I have a very hard time forming emotional attachments. He always treated me very well, spent pretty much all his time with me (so I was surprised he was even able to go on a date unnoticed), and I do believe even after this he would do almost anything for me.
When I found the messages that lead me to discover this, he appeared to be upfront with me and acknowledged he was wrong and was willing to do whatever I asked for forgiveness. And I was going to forgive him initially...but he gave me his phone to search through and I found more and more incriminating evidence. As far as the date with this woman goes, I messaged her and she confirmed that he did go on a date with her but he continued to deny it saying they had phone calls but never met, and that they initially met on tinder before he met me. I asked him to give me all his credit card statements to prove he was not in her city on the day of the date the woman said it was, which there was no evidence of transactions at all on that day or any day in her town. However, Snapchat records prove that he did not even get her phone number until shortly before the day she claims they dated, which of course indicates that they did not meet well before he met me as he stated. So, he is not being totally truthful with me despite me asking multiple times to just tell me everything.
The only reason I even consider giving it another chance is because he seems to be willing to do literally anything I ask to keep me. He has had a lot of bad things happen to him recently and says that I am the only good thing he has in his life, which is true tbh. When I initially kicked him out he accepted it but looked like a dead man and struggled to hide tears from me, which is not something I ever expected from him. He has been willing so far to give me access to his phone whenever I ask, is willing to get a sort of parental control app on his phone and mine so I can monitor his activities when I want to, turned location services on, allow me to make dating accounts with his phone number that I can control so he can’t use it, and wants to go to infidelity counseling with me. So the question is, is this enough even though I still don’t think he is being truthful about the extent of his transgressions? At this point it seems like he is willing to give me almost complete control of his life, but is he really sorry? Will I regret it if I choose to try again?
TLDR: boyfriend cheated, admits it but is not totally honest about the extent of it, asks for another chance and looks like he may be actually sorry and willing to change. He is giving me complete control of his phone, location, dating accounts, and wants therapy. Is he genuine?
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2020.11.19 09:22 freakingfart I'm (21F) in love with my best friend (M19) who I "friendzoned"

I don't know where to begin. I won't go all the way back to the beginning. I'll go back to the moment I realized I had feelings for him. And, as per the culture of the subreddit, I'll give my best friend the nickname of "Red".
Red lent me one of his favorite comic books over the summer and, as I was reading it, I started to find one of the protagonists pretty similar to Red. And that character had so many admiral traits, he was really just an unconditional angel. And I'd read through this comic, feeling that sorta distant affection for a fictional character that one does. But as I continued to read, I really started to see Red in this character. And I realized I was projecting the love I felt for him into this fictional lil hero and I realized that I had feelings for him.
It was shortly thereafter that I started to realize he felt the same way. I don't know what gave it away. There were probably little signs there the whole time but one day it all just seemed so glaringly obvious. And I started to freak out about it. I'd stay up at night worrying that he'd ask me out and that I'd have to reject him, the daydreams would consume me in the shower or when I was doing homework, when I would watch a movie; constantly. And I know you don't yet have the context to understand why I'd be so fixated on rejecting someone who reciprocates my feelings. Obviously, I'd have other fantasies of us being together.
The truth is that I love him more than anyone I've ever known. I'm not really a romantic person; I've dated and even maintained long term relationships but I never actually loved any of them. I felt like I was faking it. In fact, I even resented many of those partners for having so much emotional energy to pour into our relationship. That's so fucked up; I know. It wasn't equal. It wasn't reciprocated. I had a fair amount of casual sex and one night stands that never materialized into anything more and, in those situations, sex felt fully performative. I wasn't even sure I liked sex. I don't know why I pursed it. I haven't been in a relationship since I was 19 because I knew that these unfair relationships were unethical and that I had to work on myself. I dramatically calmed down on casual sex; I had 1 fwb in the past year and that ended over 6 months ago. I know that I've grown up a lot and I know that my feelings this time are completely different from the past. I mean, this is my best friend we're talking about here. Our foundation is a friendship rooted in shared morals, interests, goals, experiences, history, etc. He's unlike anyone I've ever met but he's exactly like me; I really connect with him and regardless of what happens, I want to grow old with him.
That being said, I don't think I'm ready for a relationship still because I am so afraid of being in a relationship. When I'm ready, I don't think I will be this afraid. Also, I feel so young to be sure that the person I'm with now will be the person I spend the rest of my life with. I genuinely believe he is my soulmate and that if we date, I'd someday marry him. But that seems so overwhelming to a 21 year old. He's never been in a relationship before and I know for sure that I've made mistakes in so many of my past relationships, I don't want Red to be afraid to make mistakes like I have out of fear that he'd lose his best friend. Our friendship is so much more important us than anything and I think it'd be hard to destabilize it that much. I want him to be able to understand romance independently of me so that if we do someday get together, he'll have seen the world outside of me and be completely positive that I'm the person he wants to be with, not just by default that person because I happen to be the first. I hope none of that seems patronizing or in any way means that I think he's incapable of making his own decisions; but I don't want him to resent me in the way that I resent my exes. I don't want to risk our friendship.
I also worry that if we were romantically involved, the relationship would be the only good thing in my life. Right now, because of Covid, my circumstances have been pretty miserable. I don't want to speak in depth on this point, but I've basically been confined to one room since March. I don't know a lot of people; I don't have many friends and I don't have much family. It's been extremely lonely. Additionally, I'm pretty overwhelmed with school so it's not like I'd have much time to invest in meeting new friends online or something. There are a few things in my life that keep me grounded and grateful enough that I can keep going; among these are the comfort of my bed, therapy, my medication, some hopes for the future, and my best friend.
When I'm sad, he makes me laugh. If I need someone to listen, he's all ears. He'd do anything for me. And the truth is, I'd do anything for him. If he's sad, I'd come running. I'd go to the ends of the earth for him. He's worth it to me.
That's enough of a tangent. I'll get back on track to the story now.
One day, he confessed to me. He said that it's okay if I don't feel the same way, but that he knew he'd regret it if he never told me. And I didn't tell him that I felt the same way. I turned him down, I told him that I couldn't fuck up our friendship and that I loved him too much to even risk it that little bit. He put on a good face but I could see he felt shit. We came to the conclusion that we could proceed as though nothing had happened; not pretend that this hadn't happened, but that it wouldn't change anything.
I couldn't sleep that night. He didn't either. We spoke about it over the phone in the morning, tossed around the idea of taking some space. We decided that taking space would just make this bigger than it needed to be and probably make things more awkward in the long run. He said he values our friendship more than any hurt of romantic rejection.
All Red wanted to know was if I felt the same way. He was okay with the rejection; he understood my reasoning and agreed that we should just be friends for now. And he asked, very clear that my answer would just give him closure on feeling a little bit creepy about having an unreciprocated crush on me and not that it would change our resolution to stay friends in any way. But I didn't want to confuse or hurt him any more, so I didn't give an answer. I said: "I want you to know that me saying no is not because of you, but because right now just isn't the moment. I love you so much. Ask me again in 5 years."
I don't want him to wait 5 years for me. I want to be his best friend for at least 5 years and he can date or fuck or grow or whatever he wants without the risk of losing his partner. I want him to do what he wants. I don't want him to be scared to be himself because he's scared we'll break up. I clarified all of that in my conversation with him. He knew what I meant, I think, because he seemed thrilled to know that I had unspoken feelings for him as well.
Fast forward to now. We're both on dating apps. I don't really engage much with my matches; haven't gotten far enough with any of them to talk off the app. He's gotten a pretty good amount of attention and he's able to keep those conversations going. He even went on a date with one of his matches recently. It went really well. He said she's an awesome person and she's really into him. I'd be surprised if she wasn't; he's a catch.
Red doesn't seem interested in her. He told me he doesn't want a relationship right now, he thinks. But he also doesn't want to hook up with anyone. He doesn't really know what he wants. I know how he feels because I feel that way, as well.
But here's the part of the story where I'm a piece of shit. Red's been staying over at my house a few times recently to do homework with me. We are not having sex or making out or anything like that. We are legitimately trying to do homework and mostly goofing off and hanging out like bros. But sometimes we sleep in the same bed. And I'm the one who initiates cuddling because my room is a goddamn freezer. And it feels so good; I hate being touched. I don't like when people hug me or shake my hand or enter my bubble in any way. I never liked to cuddle with my hookups. I never liked to sleep next to my ex. But when Red holds me, I feel happier and safer than ever. It feels like an extension of myself. I'm comfortable in any position. I sleep smiling.
And I know it's giving him a mixed signal. I ask him regularly if it's making him uncomfortable or if he wants me to back off a bit; if he wants me to set a firmer boundary. But he always says no. He says that even as friends, he likes the closeness.
I'm so confused about what to do. I don't want to be messing with his head or hurting him in any way. But I'm in love with him. And I'm having such a hard time saying no to myself even though I know it's the right thing to do. I want to kiss him every time I see him. I want to hold his hand and be his girl and delete all my stupid dating apps. I don't see what anyone could see in anyone else but him. (I don't want to seem like I'm holding my friend to an impossible standard or something; I acknowledge that he is not a perfect human being and has many ways to grow BUT I love his imperfections and have faith in the beautiful person he is now and the even more beautiful person that he will continue to grow into.)
I think I need to tell him how I feel. And to apologize for any mixed signals; to tell him that I feel just as confused and nervous as he does, but that I also need to accept that our relationship is strictly platonic in this moment. Then I need to maintain my end of things and not enter any cuddly grey areas with him despite how badly I want to. And I need to proactively check myself for mixed messages I may be giving, because I want to be supportive of him seeing other people.
I spoke to my therapist about this and he said that I'm thinking too much into this; that our friendship is strong enough to support these grey areas and that my friend dating is enough acknowledgement from him that he understands we won't be together right now. But I know Red and I can feel him shaking when he holds me sometimes, when he's trying to decide if he should kiss me or not.
Space isn't the answer; I think it's probably just having a clearer boundary and being direct in expressing what I'm feeling to him. I know our friendship is strong enough to withstand this; I just want to do right by him.
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2020.11.18 20:35 KookLove How can I survive as a hopeless romantic INFJ during the pandemic?

Hi.
So.. I’m a 19F university student and a hopeless romantic that’s never been in a relationship. I was hoping I’d get to meet a lot of new people, make friendships and even be in a relationship once I started university, but because of the pandemic I’ve only been able to meet a few people, and only during September. Right now the UK is in lockdown and I don’t really have an excuse to ask the people I know to hang out.. What’s worse is that I can’t seem to find a way to meet new people, especially guys.
It’s gotten so bad I am constantly lonely and sad I don’t have opportunities to meet guys my age and potentially get to know them better.. And I’m a huge romantic, so things like one night stands and tindr hookups are not really of interest to me...
This sucks. I don’t even know how you’re supposed to meet someone NOT to just hook up but to get to know each other better and perhaps get in a relationship. How did people do that before Covid?? Is going on what’s typically thought of as “dates” too uncool for this generation? I mean, I know couples do go to dates, but I have no idea how you’re supposed to go to your FIRST date(s) if you’ve just met the other person...
Some of my girl friends meet guys on Tinder. One of them was lucky enough to meet her what she thinks is her soulmate in one of her classes. But my classes are all online.
What’s even worse is that I don’t even know if my expectation if romance is fcked up. Like, I feel like expect so many things.. True and unconditional love, instant attraction, playful banter, soulmate connection...etc. But I’m realising this is just how romance is portrayed in the movies, and I’m afraid I’m going to be let down by real life. I don’t want to feel bad about my expectations, but is romance really existent?
This is a huge rant and I’m sorry. If anyone has any suggestions, I’d be very glad to hear them! Do other INFJs feel this way or have the same unrealistic expectations about love?
Thank you! 🥰
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2020.11.18 08:08 FurMevyn 31[T4R] Enby Nerd Seeks Their Soulmate! ♡

Hello there! My name is Ash, and I'm a 31-year-old nonbinary nerd from the middle-of-nowhere, Iowa. I'm gettin' to be a little too old for goin' out, and frankly, I don't much like doing so if I can help it regardless. I get most of my socialization online, and spend a lot of my free time playing Dungeons & Dragons, Final Fantasy XIV, and a handful of other social or party games through Steam. (Like Uno!)
I'm hoping to find my soulmate, if I'm being perfectly honest. Someone with whom I can share all of my little observations, silly thoughts, insecurities, and goals. Maybe even someone I can have absurd online dates with, movie nights, playin' our MMOs together, etc. I'm probably being a little too much of a hopeless romantic, but I'm too stubborn to change that!
Full disclosure: I'm AMAB, and present masculine in person, but identify as NB and behave as such online.
I look forward to hearing from you. <3
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2020.11.15 19:13 cheryldlovejoy Seven Steps to Get a Girlfriend Fast

If you've made it to this article, then you are surely looking forward to leaving the singles club. Perhaps, yet you have no experience in dating, so that your knowledge of how to talk to girls is limited. Basically, you don't know where to start. Or, perhaps, your excessive desire to find a quick girlfriend is scaring all the girls.
In this article, we tell you why you have trouble getting bride, bride where to get and how to get a girlfriend, step pas without complications.
Trust us, this works, because all the points you will find in this article are based on the experience of other men, who have also been in the same situation.
And there are many who have already found a girlfriend by following these simple steps. They, too, were eager to have a partner and yet were unaware of their failings.
So, we are going to share with you very specific steps so that you have 100% success when it comes to finding a girlfriend. Today is the first day of a new stage in your life. Prepared?

Can't get a girlfriend? These are the reasons:

You can't get a girlfriend. And it's not because you can't find a woman or simply because no one likes you. There are real and quantifiable reasons. Here are some of them:

1. You are not trying

If you spend your life locked up at home and don't socialize, you clearly won't get a girlfriend. You can't hope to find one without doing anything. Maybe you are too focused on your professional career and do not have time to find a girlfriend or have a relationship. In any case, you are not doing your best.

2. You lack personality, experience and confidence in yourself

Appearances attract, but it is personality that retains. Even if you are a handsome man, if you are boring you will find it difficult to retain a girl. Not having any interesting stories to tell will make women run away, further undermining your self-esteem. And self-esteem is very important, since it is directly related to sexual attractiveness. Despite what it may seem, sexual attractiveness is not so much a function of physical attractiveness, but of self-confidence. Self-esteem amplifies your physical attractiveness.

3. You don't want to take the first step

Especially if you are a bunch, both in terms of physique and personality, you have to be proactive and take the first step. Very often when women are flirting they don't move on if the man is too shy or too nervous. You send them a signal that you don't like them, so they leave and get on with their lives. Most women won't give you a second chance, especially if you've just met.

4. You are out

Buddy, hasn't your mother taught you to behave? Like other human beings, women deserve respect and not be treated like objects. Stop whistling and making weird noises to get their attention, leave that tactic only to your pets. And most importantly, keep your hands to yourself when the situation calls for it. Believe us, since the beginning of time, the outcast never gets the girl.

5. You don't have 'social proof' or social proof

A man's 'social proof' increases his degree of attraction and self-confidence. If a man has no friends, women will most likely think 'God, if I go out with this one, I'll have him glued to me 24 hours!' and nobody wants that.
It doesn't mean you have to be friends with the creme de la creme, just have a group of friends.

6. You don't know how to talk to a woman

Do you usually screw up when you talk to a woman and get her scared out even before the flirting phase has started? Don't talk to a woman like she's one of your colleagues, especially if you've just met. He might not take it very well.

8. You are too absorbent

You have to understand that a woman wants to have her personal time and space. Chasing her and sticking to her like a limpet is something that turns most of them back. You too should do the same and have a life of your own outside of the relationship.

8. You don't take care of your appearance

Taking care of your appearance and having good daily hygiene is very important if you want a woman to notice you. Nobody likes dating a scruffy, smelly bum! Get a haircut, shave (or take care of your beard), use deodorant, and brush your teeth. They are basic aspects to take into account in your daily life, which you should take into account, even if you are not trying to find a girlfriend.

9. You have no real idea in your head of what love or a partner is

If you don't understand what it means to have a healthy, well-functioning relationship, it will be almost impossible for you to find a girlfriend yet. Maybe you're still stuck in your teenage days, where you don't like having to work to get things done and always having your way.
Awake! A healthy relationship is a two-way street.

10. You don't see women as human beings

It may be that you are afraid to approach a woman because you think you do not understand them. You don't know what to talk to them about or how to behave in their presence. So all you have to do is play silly jokes with your buddies. Let me tell you something ... all you do is show your insecurity and that gets you nowhere.
Women are not aliens. They are thinking living beings, just like you. Believe it or not, they will be able to understand everything you say. Let's just hope it's not inappropriate, that it makes you worthy of a good slap.

11. You have zero dating experience

Not having any kind of dating experience can be an obstacle, since you don't know the basic rules and you have no idea where to start. Don't worry, this article is made to help you.

7 safe steps to get the girl of your dreams

Getting a girlfriend shouldn't be that difficult. You can achieve this by following these seven steps:

Step # 1: It all starts with you

Before you think about getting a girlfriend, you have to mature and have confidence in yourself. So, start to mature and build your image to become the man you want her to see. Here are some things to help you do it:
Practice your passion. What do you like to do? Whatever it is, keep doing it and try to improve. When you have fun and are focused on something that you are passionate about, you become 10 times more attractive, seriously.
Live life and enrich it . Doing the things you like, such as traveling, will provide you with contact with other cultures and your life will be enriched. By experiencing things in the first person you will have more cultural baggage and more stories to tell, which will make you more attractive in the eyes of women.

Step # 2: Go out to meet girls

The next thing you have to do is get out of your house. Obviously, if you want to find a girlfriend, you won't find her within the four walls of your apartment. Go where the girls are.
Pay attention to the places they go out. Yes, there are girls everywhere, but you need to make a list of where to find them. Take a look at this section of our article .
Expand your network of contacts. Meeting new people at social events and meetings expands your network of contacts. Join a gym or classes that have to do with what you like. You could also change the places you go to regularly for others. For example, if you always go to the same bakery, try going to another. You could also try singles travel or just traveling solo. Both possibilities will allow you to meet people.
Always be prepared. No matter where you are or what you are doing, make sure you are always ready to flirt. That means putting on a monkey every time you leave the house. Don't be shy or look away when a woman shows interest to you. Say your name and prepare for a bit of inconsequential conversation. Life is full of surprises and it is unknown where or when it will make you cross paths with your soulmate.

Step # 3 Choose your goal

As if you were a sniper, the trick to getting it right is identifying your target. Now your approach will depend on the situation and where you are.
For example, if you are in a bar, you could buy her a drink. If you see them in the park, during your running session, you can start a small conversation about the weather or the advantages of playing sports outdoors. If you know her from class, make a comment about how that class is going. And if you've met her online, wait until you find out more about her before asking her out on a date.
But regardless of where you are, once you've seen a woman you like, put your heart on it and start a conversation. Here are some tips on how to be prepared in these types of situations:
Practice talking to women. Talk to a lot of girls before launching into the one you like. This way, when the time comes, you won't be so nervous anymore
Have some pickup lines ready . They are good for starting a conversation and introducing yourself.
Mentally prepare some topics for conversation. Sometimes you will run into women who are not good at small talk either, so you better train yourself to lead the conversation. You can ask her if she has done anything interesting lately or just how her day has been.
Do not stay without saying anything. Learn to listen to what she is saying and comment or give your opinions when she pauses. Be inquisitive and interested in what they are saying by asking appropriate questions.

Step # 4: Get the appointment

Now you've already talked to that woman you'd like to date. If you've felt connected, you could tell her you'd like to see her again and ask for her number. If he gives it to you, you can text him that night, or the next day. Just ask him how he's doing so you can start a 'message buddy' relationship first.
Later, when he gets to know you a little more and you've earned his trust, ask him out on a date. You can simply ask him if he has any plans for that day. You can do it by message, if you have met somewhere, by chance, or face to face if it is someone you see with some regularity (in class, in the gym, at work, etc.).
Plan the appointment. The date you prepare will depend on the interests of the woman you want to date. By now, she will have told you things about herself. It is impossible that you do not know anything about his life, unless you have not paid any attention.
Don't take rejection too seriously. If a woman is interested and is not available for the day you suggest, she will propose another. But if he says directly no to you, you should respect him. Of course, if you like him a lot, stay in the area and show him that you are a good boy and have good intentions. Maybe you end up being the one who asks you for a date in the future.

Step # 5: Make the appointment

A dinner out in a cute place is always a good idea for the first date . It will allow you to enjoy each other's company, get to know each other better, and see if you have enough connection and chemistry for you to start dating. After dinner, you could go for a drink at a nearby bar. It will be a way to relax, uninhibit and become a little more intimate.
Here is a list with some tips that you should keep in mind so that your date is a success and that it helps you get a second one:
Get ready . Spend some time and effort cleaning yourself. Brush your teeth (and floss), comb your hair, and dress appropriately. Appearance is a key factor on your first date.
Watch your manners . Rude men don't get a second date. Listen to what he is telling you and also share your stories, so that the conversation flows. Be polite - don't talk with your mouth full.
Assess compatibility. A first date usually allows you to assess whether you are compatible with the other person. It lets you see if you have enough connection with your date that you will go out again. If it does not exist, it cannot be forced. We don't choose who we like and who we like.

Step # 6: Explore your chemistry in bed (optional)

When there is chemistry, there is sexual tension. You may not feel it on the first date (although it can happen) but if there is, you will end up feeling it and you will end up in bed. You have to pay close attention to see if she feels the same way. Be aware of his body language and the signals he sends you.
Do it at the right time . You have to be careful when and how often you do it. You want a girlfriend, not a friend with the right to touch. You may want to wait at least three dates before taking action. This will show him that you are serious.
Don't disappear before he wakes up . If you want her to be your girlfriend, make her breakfast the next morning. Show him that you are not just looking for sex.
Frequent sex ends up leading to emotional attachment. Sex is a significant milestone in a relationship and compatibility in bed is important. The more passionate sex you have, the easier it will be for her to end up being your girlfriend.

Step # 7: From dating to dating

Spending time together helps you discover more about each other and increases the chances that you will end up being a couple. You get to see the different facets of the woman you like and assess whether she has the qualities you are looking for. The infatuation ends up arriving if there is chemistry and you spend time together. It is the result of deep conversations, moments of fun, experiences lived together and, also, the feeling of peace and security.
Realize your true feelings. Before asking her if she would like to go a step further in your fledgling relationship, you should be clear about your feelings towards her. Playing with another person is not okay in any case.
If you're only with her because it's comfortable to have someone by your side, but you're not in love, then she shouldn't be your girlfriend. It should be your friend and, if she agrees, with the right to touch.
But, if you want to spend every minute with her and if it's the first thing you think of when you wake up in the morning, then be clear, you are in love. And if you are and you think she could be too, dare to ask.
Ask her to be your girlfriend . It depends on the personality of the woman whether or not to make an official proposal. However, it's not like you're asking him to marry you, so you could do it more casually as well.

Places where you can meet your future girlfriend

There are many sites where you can search for a girlfriend. In fact, by proxy, you can find women anywhere! You just have to keep your eyes peeled when you leave the house and be ready for an innocent flirt at any moment. Do you hear me?
Even so, some guys want to know specific places and situations where they are more likely to meet women. If you want to get a girlfriend, pay attention:

1.Sites where girls go

Women, just like you, go everywhere. It is easy for you to meet women in normal places such as public transport, parks, shopping centers, gyms, bars and even in your workplace, if you have the right attitude and want it to happen. You just have to have enough self-esteem (not in an excessive / aggressive plan) to approach a woman and start a conversation.

2. Social events and meetings

Parties at local venues and get-togethers at your friends' houses are great places to meet women. But the quintessential place to meet people is weddings. Weddings often make singles feel like they also want to experience the love they see in the married couple. All feelings intensify, and women are more predisposed to flirting.
Also, if you can find a speed dating event in your city, try to attend. The women you meet on these types of sites are also looking for a boyfriend, so that should increase your chances of finding a girlfriend.

3. Through friends and family

Do you have aunts in your family who have been nagging you for a long time with setting up a blind date with a friend's niece? People who are trying to get you to date someone close to them - a friend or family member - will almost always match you up with a woman with whom you have a chance to connect. After all, they know you both. Also, if they do it is because they love you and care about you, so you should pay attention to them and stay with that woman they want to introduce you to.

4. Online Dating Sites

An online dating site is a good platform to meet girls and potentially find a girlfriend. This can come in handy, especially if you are rather shy when talking to a woman face to face, or if you are looking for someone of a specific race or religion.
There are different categories of dating sites and apps that you can choose from. It all depends on the type of relationship you are looking for. If you want to get a formal girlfriend, the dating sites are the best for you. If you are looking for something more erotic, you could try Sex Dating sites . And, if you don't want a serious relationship, but wouldn't mind hanging out with girls to see what happens, these Dating Pages are a good start.
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2020.11.13 09:30 aslfingerspell The "Ideal Romantic Life", According To Society's Unreasonable Expectations

I was initially going to title this post "Life Cycle of a Normie", but then I realized that I wasn't writing out the story of a "normal" love life so much as society's delusional Hollywood version of life. It turns out society's expectations are so high, even non-FA people fail to meet them most of the time. I mean, just to provide one statistic the divorce rate in the US is/was around 50%, and even the marriages that do stay together are not always as happy as we might think. Anyway, here's how life is "supposed" to go according to all those books/movies/songs/etc. We all now society expects too much, but when you lay it all out in one place, it really goes to show how utterly delusional culture is when it comes to expectations surrounding love and romance. Like comparing the bodies of "normal women" to supermodels, maybe people will understand FA more if they knew the impossible standards society tells people to meet:
  1. Stage 1: Teenage Romance: While many people have crushes at a young age, High School is when Dating actually starts, at least according to Society's timetable. If movies are anything to go by, you somehow always have at least one class with your bf/gf together, hang out on weekends and in summers, sit together at lunch, etc. About the worst you'll go through is having to meet their parents, but that is simply the price of admission to high school dating. Parents might be concerned, but they will never outright block your from dating your crush. You have your first kiss at 16, and it's great. Nobody ever screws up, gets embarrassed, or grossed out, even when doing something for the first time, especially not something like kissing. There are no awkward moments, only joyous and carefree ones. Perhaps this person in math class is really your Soulmate, but who cares because it's all fun. Perhaps you even break up at one point, but they were fun while they lasted, and if nothing else they're just a "crazy ex" to complain about to your next bf/gf. Because after all, that's what High School is, right? You either find your one true love in freshman year or you get to date a new person every semester. No matter what happens, you will always get a date to prom. You make that "Promposal" (or get one), get accepted, and take them on a ride to Prom in a limousine. Nobody in the movies just goes with friends.
  2. Stage 2: College "Experimentation": You now find yourself in college, 18-23 years old and hundreds of miles away from your parents. "Experimentation" is all the rage: with drugs, with social and political identities, and of course, with romance. "Hookup culture" is supposedly a thing that exists, with any night in or evening out apparently just a text or phone call away. If all those op-eds about hookup culture are right, it really is that easy. Clearly they've never tried online dating before. Odds are you meet your future wife/husband in college according to society, but before we get to marriage there's even more fun and adventure we're expected to have in Society's Ideal Love Life! This brings us to...
  3. Stage 3: "Crazy Days" of Adulthood: After graduating college you begin your career. With an independent source of wealth you move our of your parent's house, free to buy whatever you want. Depending on your specific lifestyle and worldview, this may involve becoming a fully fledged Pickup Artist who brings home someone new every night, or it may involve something like travelling the world and doing charity work. Either way, it's definitely going to be something really fun and/or enriching as an experience. Nobody just spends their 20s on the couch playing video games, or unable to even get a job in the first place. No siree. In Society's Ideal Love Life everybody needs a time to look back on when they were "free" or "wild". Perhaps you meet someone you love on one of your trips, but even if the "Crazy Days" don't involve romance at all, there's always the implicit assumption that it's a choice to be single, and that contrarywise you always could get someone if you really wanted. Your "eligible bachelobachelorette" status is a lifestyle where you choose to "not tie yourself down" and still be free to do crazy and fun stuff like skydiving or touring the US on a motorcycle.
  4. Stage 4: "Settling Down" and Marriage: Sometimes in your 20s or 30s (depending on length of "Crazy Days" period), you marry The Love Of Your Life and "put down roots". You have your fairytale wedding and may or may not have kids, but you have effectively crossed the finish line of the Ideal Romantic Life: you are now legally and divinely bound to someone you love, and are physically living with them every single day for the rest of your lives. In Society's Ideal Romantic Life, nobody ever divorces or gets trapped into a marriage with the wrong person. If "the spark" ever fades in your relationship, Society says it will inevitably be reignited even stronger than before! At the end of your lives, you both die peacefully in your sleep. Nobody ever has to spend months rotting away from cancer in a hospital bed after their spouse died 10 years ago.
Or, for older FAs, I suppose society's expectation was this: finish high school (or drop out, since graduation rates were far lower a couple generations ago), marry at 18 (maybe 19-20 if you are a late bloomer), then support an entire family and a comfortable retirement with nothing but a single blue-collar job.
Did I miss anything?
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2020.11.13 00:04 SnooMarzipans8970 I'm in trouble (heart trouble)

So I'm estranged from my parents 2 years this month. Since then, I really became an island and didn't open up to any one new just glanced at online dating and tried my best to make new ppl leave me alone.
I met this woman who kinda just found me, started talking to me on social media looking for new friends. She's actually queer which is a refreshing change...too often I crush on unavailable woman. We both admitted to being into each other but get this, we have mutual friends she knows my neighbor and he (and I like an idiot) referred her to my apartment and she's moving next door. She's just everywhere she says she's getting out of a bad relationship and doesn't want to date her neighbor. But the "friendship" feels too intimate. We talk all the time. I met her mom once and she commented that her mom liked me. She isn't sure if she's poly or not so basically wants a sexual walkabout which I get so do I. But she's always there. I tried to take a break and it lasted like a week before I missed her too bad. I wrecked my car the night I realized I was in love with her after seeing her at a (masked and outdoor) party.
I'm a mess I went from being too shut off to too in love and I haven't been open about the fact I'm vulnerable rn too, I had a suicide attempt over the summer. I just don't know what to do I want to set boundaries and protect my heart and let her live her life. But I have terrible depression I either want her to be my soulmate or go away forever...classic all or nothing thinking.
Is this just a thing? I'm only a few years in do lesbians often keep you on the backburner as a friend only but there's still non friend intimacy? I'm so lost and yes I'm in weekly therapy and on meds so I try my best to work on me. What do I do about her? These feels are just opening a dam I closed up. Idk if I can handle being her friend and I'm the kind of the neighbor who doesn't talk to ppl so it wouldn't be a stretch to ignore her. But she's gonna be so near, wants to share internet, is always there, says she's into me too but keeps me at arms length. It just doesn't seem like a healthy relationship for me now. But I never have learned to just be friends with someone I'm attracted to. I usually ignore women if they reject me who just want to be friends. I already have friends...all straight but old and family and dependable.
Just wanna see if any one has been through anything similar or had advice?
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2020.11.12 14:47 enigma_goth I finally deleted my Facebook account that we were friends on and feel so free now!

I deleted, not deactivated so it’s gone for good! I wasn’t very active on this account other than to use it for Facebook dating (which was crap for the most part). I thought I found my soulmate and we we became Facebook friends. But after we broke up, we had not severed Facebook ties. I found myself scouring through all of his pictures, trying to see if he was online on Friday/ Saturday date nights, trying to see if his latest new friend was a hot chick, and if there were any postings or activities from an attractive female. I was losing my mind. Social media can drive you crazy when you’ve broken up. I’m a little older and we didn’t have social media when I was a teenager. I will probably not be FB friends with someone again until we’re marriage official LOL. Anyways I just wanted to vent and tell the world I feel so free now. :)
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