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INFP, INTP, INFJ, something else? What am I?

2020.11.26 21:21 tallfoxdeer INFP, INTP, INFJ, something else? What am I?

Heyyo, I've tested ISTJ, ISTP, INTP, INFP, and INFJ depending on time and test, would appreciate some guidance! My most recent 16personalities and IDRLabs test give INFP, but the IDRLabs function test gives my highest as Ni then Fe. Before this year I consistently tested as a Thinker.
• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself. — I am 20, male, gay, history major, and I live in rural North Carolina.
• Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow? — clinically diagnosed with OCD, panic disorder, and depression. The OCD and depression undoubtedly affects my personality and habits.
• Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it? — My upbringing has been strict, and I'm still not allowed to do just anything for as long as I live in the household. Even though strict moral boundaries are justified with religion, parents have never went to church much, nor read the Bible. The Internet is one place where I've had more freedom, so Twitter is where I express my true feelings and make my true friends. I try not to openly defy my parents on these issues, I have not been a kid that sneaks out or openly rebels, my frustration is voiced through a sour mood.
• What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not? — I don't have a job, and never have, but I wish to apply to work at a library. I don't want anything that is too wild or loud.
• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed? — Alone in person would be fine, but if I had to be away from my friends online too, that would be awful. I need people to let out my thoughts and feelings to, and my online friends are better for that than my strict family.
• What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities? — I'm not good at most sports, perhaps better at tennis, badminton, etc. I prefer hiking and nature photography during warm months. I have taken photos of thousands of insects, plants, birds, etc. in my backyard. I consider myself absent-minded and unobservant overall, but when it comes to insects and plants, I notice what no one else pays attention to.
• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas than you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate? — I am quite curious. Sometimes I'll start wondering something and go right to Wikipedia to satisfy my curiosity. I do have more ideas than I can execute, and these ideas can vary. For example, the other day I rode through my town, and saw the power lines hanging everywhere. Power lines, ever since I was a kid, have bothered me, it seems like something that should be in the past. I began thinking of how much better it could look if only they were put underground. Of course, I don't have the drive to push for this to be done, maybe except for mentioning something on my town's FB page.
• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be? — I would not enjoy it at all. I have never been a bossy type of guy, and I don't think I'd be very good at it either. I'm extremely indecisive and always worry that others are in the right and I am wrong. If I were a leader, I would be lax.
• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity? — I’m sufficiently coordinated I would say, except for being absent minded sometimes. I don't trip much, and when I do I don't fall, I quickly recover. I don't enjoy working with my hands. Partly because my hands are pretty sensitive, and I might have mild arthritis. Regardless, I like working with my mind better.
• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer. — I would consider myself artistic, though art block has prevented me from drawing for months now. What I love most is drawing anthro animals. I was influenced a lot by movies like Robin Hood as a kid, so I love that kind of art and animation. In finer art, I definitely prefer romanticism. I love art where you can feel the emotion of the artist coming through the canvas, such as with that movement. I do not like abstract nor very classical art.
• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them? — I do not have good thoughts of the past. I don't hold on to good memories as well as some others seem to. Regret is a large issue for me, especially since I've turned 20. I think of how things could have been, I think of people I've lost contact with, and where they could be now, like the girl with dirty blond hair that I was friends with in 2nd grade but one day she stopped coming to church, where I knew her from. I regret being homeschooled, I think I might have missed out on friendships. The present? I don't live in the present very much. I regret the past and think of what could have been, and then I think of what I want the future to be. I do think of the future a lot, I have my idealized image of living with my future boyfriend, I think of meeting all my online friends, etc. But I also have a lot of anxieties about the future. I think about getting old, I think of the afterlife, and how I am unsure of it. That being said, I don't like to plan far ahead for the future, being so indecisive.
• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so? — if it is physical help, I dislike it, I may react with acting grumpy. If it is emotional help, at least from friends, I'm glad to listen and try to console them and provide solutions for their problems. I do it because I care for them, we all need someone to talk to and express ourselves.
• Do you need logical consistency in your life? — depends on what you mean. I suppose a lack of logical consistency does really bother me, like on Twitter for example, when I feel that people's morals aren't logically applied, but rather more cherry-picked. Not to sound edgy, but sometimes I feel that my own concept of logical consistency doesn't line up with the world's, and this creates a conflict, because I'm not confident enough in what I think to assert my beliefs, yet they are strong enough that they will not be simply overrun. So I keep some of my thoughts internalized to preserve my beliefs but also prevent conflict.
• How important is efficiency and productivity to you? — not extremely important I guess. I'm not organized in my approach to get things done, but I can get them done. In school, I always wait till the due date to complete assignments. But when I do, I give it my all, and that's why I have all As at the moment, and I never miss a due date that I know is there. In general however, I'm not very productive, I lay around a lot, pretty lazy, and I don't get much accomplished outside of school unless someone else pushes me to.
• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that? — only if I feel like they are affecting my life. If it does not affect my life, I don't care at all what they do. But sometimes I can try to control just a bit if I feel like it may interfere with me and my routines.
• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them? — my biggest hobby is nature photography while hiking. I love learning about the wildlife in my large backyard with woods, and so I spend a couple hours a day walking back there every summer day. It's very calm, and so it gives me a peaceful environment to think to myself and take in nature. I also like gaming, even though I find myself to be very selective in what games I like.
• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses? — I learn best by reading. I never take notes, as I can't take in info and write it down at the same time for some reason, and I'm a slow writer. I prefer classes that involve logic.
• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go? — in school projects I am often the only student that gives one about grades, so I inevitably have to take slight initiative. I usually just say "I'll take one part, you take the other, and we can just do our own thing". After that I just improvise. Strategizing in other areas is a strong suit for me. In games for example I can come up with strategies for board games like Battleship and Monopoly, or video games like Fortnite, in ways that other people don't think about.
• What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally? — I want a comfortable life, and I want true love. I don't want a job I hate, I don't want to worry about money, I just want to be focused on my relationships, romantic and platonic. I want to travel with my future boyfriend and go have a lot of unique experiences while doing so. Otherwise, I don't care about money, I don't really aspire for "fancy" stuff or cars, etc.
• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why? — I have a lot of fears. One fear is death, and what may come after. I also fear being alone, with no friends, no partner, and no family. I fear of losing my mind, my consciousness, to a mental condition that will make me a shell of myself. This was influenced by my grandmother having dementia for about 6 years before her death, and being around her was rough to bear, seeing her condition worsen with every month that passed.
• What do the "highs" in your life look like? — spending time with friends. The highest point I've had this past year was probably the day of my birthday, when I had dozens of my friends on Twitter telling me happy birthday, messaging me and giving me shout outs, drawing things for me. It meant so much to me.
• What do the "lows" in your life look like? — my common lows often originate from my jealousy, my despair and regrets, and times when I can't talk to my friends. If people make fun of me or complain about me, even if strangers, this makes me feel extremely bad.
• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so? — I'm never just completely out of reality, but in my mind I always have some sort of regret or idealism going on. I do pay attention to my surroundings constantly, though I am not observant so I easily miss things that aren't obvious.
• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about? — depending on my mood, if I were happy, I would probably start singing to myself. If not, I would probably just be thinking to myself, about what I want in life, about my worries, and regrets.
• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it? — I may never make an important decision unless I get friends or family to help me make it. And yes, I definitely doubt and change my mind, albeit not as likely if others strongly affirm that I made the right choice.
• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life? — my own emotions have always been very difficult for me to grasp. Often times I have trouble figuring out what I actually want. For example, this year I found myself upset that my friend got in a relationship. For a couple months, I thought I was jealous of the simple fact that he was able to be in a gay relationship, with his parents approving, unlike how mind would be. But after a few months I then realized that I actually had a crush on him and didn't know it for a while. So yes I take a while to figure out my emotions. Emotions are fairly important to me. I used to keep up a cold facade, and I still do with family, but I find myself feeling better since I've started letting myself express my emotions to my friends, that way we can work things out.
• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why? — sometimes. It really depends on my mood, and the other person. I only appease them if I think they would get legit upset over me disagreeing. Otherwise, I enjoy playing devil's advocate, and helping them get more open minded. I think everyone could be more understanding of differences in opinion.
• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why? — I'm not a big rule breaker, but I'm very skeptical of authority. There is a conflict between me not wanting conflict, and me wanting to preserve individualism against the wishes of authority. I only break the rules if I both think the rules are illogical and it will not upset anyone.
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2020.11.25 18:38 Hellowally ENFP Couples in Anime/Animation (ENFP coupled with almost every other MBTI type)

I wanted to try to find examples of ENFP relationships in different anime series to see how they'd be portrayed. I also just wanted to share something fun with the people in this sub. In this list, I shared ENFP romances that are either end-game, heavily implied, or focused for the majority of the series. With the exception of two characters (Amagiri Shun and Kuranosuke), I'm 90% positive all of the characters listed are Ne-dom ENFPs. The partners I gave my best guess using the functions to help me out. For characters who I weren't sure were ENFPs or didn't fit the above criteria, I just made a separate section at the bottom. There's only two shows that are not an anime here, which are Avatar the Last Airbender and Doki & Nabi: There she is!
Side Note: What was interesting to see was how hard it was to find ENFPs paired with extroverts in anime, especially ExFx partners. The only pairing I wasn't able to find was ENFP x ESFP (there's a possibility this could be Nagi & Jin from Kannagi, but i just couldn't tell if Nagi is ENFP or ENTP), and even the ENFP x ENFP one can be considered a stretch. I'd be really interested in any series you know of that shows these types of relationship. Also I think there are unfortunately very few shonen/seinen series in general that show a relationship with an ENFP. Most of these shows are from 90s/2000s shoujo/josei series. Either way, I hope those of you who are anime fans find a series you enjoy from this :)
Romances:
ENFP x ESTJ - This was the second-hardest pairing to find. My best guesses are: Amagiri Shun & Sonezaki Rika (Araburu Kisetsu no Otome-domo yo); Toshino Kyouko & Ayano Sugiura (Yuru Yuri)
ENFP x ENTJ - Nike & Livius (Soredemo Sekai wa Utsukishii)
ENFP x ESFJ - Aang & Katara (Avatar: The Last Airbender)
ENFP x ENFJ - Natsuki & Yuu (Zutto Mae Suki Deshita)
ENFP x ESFP -
ENFP x ENFP - Menma & Jintan (AnoHana)
ENFP x ESTP - Lucia & Kaito (Mermaid Melody); Miaka & Tamahome (Fushigi Yuugi)
ENFP x ENTP - Risa & Otani (Lovely Complex); Kiki & Tombo (Kiki’s Delivery Service); Kana & Chiaki (Tsurezure Children)
ENFP x ISFJ - Howl & Sophie (Howl’s Moving Castle); Misha x Kotarou (Pita-ten); Claire & Chane (Baccano)
ENFP x INFJ - Ichigo & Aoyama (Tokyo Mew Mew); Yuria & Shuri (Elite Jack!!); Airi & Satoru (Boku Dake ga Inai Machi/ERASED)
ENFP x ISTJ - Sakura & Syaoran (Cardcaptor Sakura & CardCaptor Sakura: Clear Card Hen); Nodame & Chiaki (Nodame Cantabile); Kobato & Fujimoto (Kobato)
ENFP x INTJ - Mikan & Natsume (Gakuen Alice); Kensuke & Hasekura (Hitorijime My Hero); Sakura & Haruki (I want to eat your pancreas/Kimi no suizou wo tabetai)
ENFP x ISFP - Karin & Usui (Karin: Chibi Vampire); Tamako & Mochizou (Tamako Market & Tamako Love Story)
ENFP x INFP - Kuranosuke & Tsukimi (Princess Jellyfish)
ENFP x ISTP - Sana & Hayama (Kodocha); Nanaka & Nenji (Nanaka 6/17); Doki & Nabi (There She is!)
ENFP x INTP - Chitanda & Oreki (Hyouka); Tamaki & Haruhi (Ouran HighSchool Host Club); Yukiko & Tsuyoshi (Niijiro Days); Nanami & Hirotaka (Wotakoi)
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Anime that I thought about but couldn’t add to the list because I wasn’t sure if the character was ENFP:
Anime I thought about but couldn’t add because the ENFP relationship isn’t end-game or focused upon enough:
Anime I couldn’t add because the relationship is just plain unhealthy and I dropped:
Too lazy to type the partner:
ENFP x INxJ - Kyoko & Ren (Skip Beat)
ENFP x xxFP - Mondo & Rokuna (MonColle Knights)
ENFP x IxFx - Ginta & Koyuki (Marchen Awakens Romance)
ENFP x ISxP - The Girl Who Leapt Through Time (Makoto & Chiaki)
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2020.11.07 17:36 FacetiousLayman How to differentiate between ESTP and INFJ?

Hi, (I’m 15, for reference) I was typed INFJ and ESTP recently. And honestly, it’s been pretty time-consuming to travel from type to type like a nomad in order to distinguish my true MBTI type. I’ve went from ISTP, ESTP, ENTP, INTP, ENTP, ESTP, ISTP, ENTJ, ESTJ, ENTJ, ENTP, ESTP, ISTP, INTP, INTJ, and INFJ.
Evidently, it seems there’s a pattern for me being typed as a Thinker. Although, I’m not sure if I am one. But I’ve managed to minimize it down to INFJ and ESTP.
Reasons I think INFJ:
Why I think ESTP:
Aware that I listed more INFJ reasons than ESTP, and thus, that can easily employ some sort of bias for me or you to be deluded into choosing poorly based of said factor. However, I was convinced by a few that I was ESTP, but can’t say for sure. I can seem a lot more insensitive and troll-ish online, but that’s only because I have nothing else to do in quarantine. No one to talk to. Which is extremely depressing because I have no one to have some fun with.
But yeah, feel free to ask some questions in the comments or simply share your nuggets of wisdom. Thanks.
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2020.11.06 00:26 KatDT What's your biggest fear?

I had this thought on the way to work today. I wonder if there is any correlation between our personality types and our biggest fears.
For example, I (INFP) have a pretty intense fear of being judged by others. It's not something I can control, and it involves imagining so many scenarios where bad things will happen with, well, other people.
My partner, on the other hand (ISxx (look he typed as ISFJ but I think he's ISTP)) is scared of heights. Hates them. Will do anything he can to not be super high up. Tells jokes all the time about how he was on one of those Giant Drop rides and tried anything he could to get his mind off it until he dropped.
Anyway, it got me thinking if sensors tend to fear things that are in the present, more than the future. Things they can control in the present. Things like spiders, sharks, heights, flying etc, whereas intuitives fear things that are more abstract that they can't really control (like being judged, or death lmao)
So if you know your type, and your worst fear, put it down below. I want to see if there's something here.
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2020.11.04 11:45 BabyIOU Anti-depressants

For those of you who've been on anti-depressants, did your partner or close ones, mention that your personality had changed? My ISTP is even more emotional detached and reacts to the slightest comment that can be interpreted as criticism in a highly irritated almost aggressive way. He doesn't want to hear my concerns on this topic.
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2020.11.02 09:29 daniboo32 do you ever just despise/hate yourself? wish that you were different?

hey friends... so 2020 has been shit. without going into details, i left an abusive partner in may. it wasn’t my idea, and i was being manipulated pretty heavily from both him and other people involved.
i know that you know that we love big, and that often times we try to make things harmonious. i am pretty confident that i did everything that i could to try to make the relationship better. but i find myself hating how hard i tried, and how it has taken every ounce of strength to not go back and give more.
i know that it says a lot about who i am as a person to continue to find reasons to smile (i am doing much better now, don’t worry) and care for others. i am a different person from who i was when i went into that relationship... i met him when i was 19 and i just turned 30... structurally still the same, but able to assert myself when necessary and i grew intently as a communicator.
i always thought there was integrity in being the person who stayed, the good man in the storm... and i know that it was not sustainable in that situation, but i find myself questioning my entire constitution. i thought that all of these qualities were good qualities. i know that it’s a downfall that we can get stuck in bad situations.
i didn’t want this outcome, but there are so many people around me who are talking to me like i “wanted out.” i wanted change. i wanted him to grow with me, he should not have been an obstacle to overcome. i had hoped this relationship would be forever, and now my entire life is different (and i wasted my twenties).
we don’t deal well with change (x COVID x career change). i am questioning everything. i know that leaving was the right choice (thanks estjs — my rock has been the bestest through this whole ordeal), but i feel like everything that i have worked for is gone and now i have nothing to show for it. (my therapist would say that i have gleaned things, though. but that’s not what i wanted.)
also, shoutout to istps for calling me on my shit, y’all are the only ones who made sense for a while.
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2020.10.31 09:52 Even-Bee-884 ISTP or what

How old are you? What's your gender?
Male, almost 18.
Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?
Nope.
If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?
Refreshed, my favorite activity is rambling in my head for hours on end while walking.
What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?
I like peaceful, relaxing environments with solitary, low-effort activities. I can enjoy sports if there's no harm (friendly games, chess, etc), but generally no. I like going on walks, and let my mind wandering.
How curious are you? Do you have more ideas than you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?
Mid range (40%-50%) probably, I don’t seek knowledge all day nor I feel I can’t live without it, I’m not energized by learning, I feel it’s more of a “tool” to use and complement your worldview. Besides that, I sometimes find strange when people don’t search for the meaning of a word (I always do), or leave things unclear to themselves (I want to understand something before moving on).
Nope, I have no ideas on my head rn. My curiosities are about languages, psychology and philosophy, they aren’t very strong tho, as I don’t feel a need to act upon them. Needless to say, I’m not very emotional, so it makes sense they’re weak.
Primarily conceptual, but interconnected, like how it’s related my worldview to external, immediate surroundings, and how to modify it to my advantage. For example, watching this YT video or playing this videogame gives me no benefit in the long run, it’s gonna be forgotten, a piece of life lost, whatever “sticks” into my web of understanding should be accepted, and that is only achieved by reflection.
Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
No, unless it consists of me giving a few orders once a week. Yes, if I'm comfortable, not shy, around them. “Do this, that and whatever, ask for help to your partners”, sth along those lines.
Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?
Nope, I despise working, unless it doesn’t require too much effort.
Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.
No. I like a lot of songs, and stealing anime girls drawings (counts as art), but I don't create almost anything besides few pieces of poetry once a week or whatever, also I'm generally not "moved to tears" nor do I care enough to call myself an "art lover". I have to say, I'm interested in being artistic, just too lazy to acquire the required skills.
What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
I don't value the past that much, I felt some nostalgia with my childhood toy but I threw it away, and I don't miss it. Sometimes I feel a keen pain in my chest while remembering (like listening to a familiar, not even old, song), which is why I avoid it. Past is past, anyways.
I like the present, but I don't seek new experiences, I'm not afraid of them (unless there’s people involved, ugh) nor I need them to be happy.
I care a little to moderately about the future (depends): I’m trying to avoid YT, sugar, childish conflicts, while I meditate and sometimes use an app to learn a language. But a lot of times I have difficulty valuing homework, chores or “responsibilities” as a priority. I didn’t care about the negative effects of the Thing and, even tho I know it’s probably a poor situation, I can’t get myself to act accordingly. I try to act on it, and wash the dishes, just to end up with my mind wandering about an imaginary conversation between me and my teacher, justifying my laziness (ironic).
How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?
Well. I’d do it if 1. It’s a short task, 2. I know I can do it, 3. I feel neutral to good, and 4. he knows exactly what should I do to help and gives me clear instructions. If he doesn’t know, I’d feel awkward. Because I can, I like to interact with others that way, and it makes me look better (more helpful/kind) than I am.
Do you need logical consistency in your life?
“Need”, as –mental- hunger? No. As an important thing? For sure. I don’t think too much about it tho.
Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?
Nope, although I can be highly critical of some actions, and maybe that affects others.
How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?
Probably, I don't do it tho. No. Kinda, I have a result in my mind, and just act the way I feel it's gonna end up well. I never put a lot of effort tho.
How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?
Moderately. I miss a lot of details (changes in my friend's hair, in my own house, etc, I may take some time to notice them) , yet I don't bump into things frequently. Daydream, as thoughts, yes, as images and fantasies, no. I'm not sure, I feel I live midpoint between "awareness" and "non-awareness", difficult to explain for sure.
Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?
I like to reflect on my life, to watch the natural flow of my thoughts. Probably I’d be thinking in what should I say in the next zoom meeting, maybe a joke, what kind of joke, how will they react, etc. Maybe I’d reflect on why the quality of a metaphor reveals the quality of your understanding at the moment. I do this often really, I don’t need that much to feel okay.
How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
One day, probably. Yes, but I’m not sure, I never make up 100% my mind to begin with, no matter the odds, but change of mind or not, it doesn't make sense to dwell on it, you did what you believed was right.
How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?
Not sure, 20-40 minutes seems about right. Very important, if I'm sad, angry or whatever, I have issues doing my 10 grade homework, or everything that requires effort, and I can be very antagonistic if I don't moderate myself. Also, I love feeling happy.
Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?
No, the opposite, I automatically show how idiot you are, I've been trying to change and it has improved a lot tho.
Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules, why?
No. Yes, it should be challenged, esp. if it’s biased or dummy. Probably because I thought "technically, it doesn't break the rules...".
I suspect I'm an istp Ti-Ni SC/B(P) 9w8. Thank you beforehand to whoever decides to answer.
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2020.10.30 22:14 Karandax MBTI AND SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY: HOW TO FIND AN APPROACH TO A PARTNER

You have probably already read the article on the basics of MBTI and its continuation - on how to apply MBTI in the profession. Now it's time to learn how to use it in your personal life.

Conflict of interest
From the point of view of MBTI, it looks like this: two thinkers meet (ENTJ and ESTJ), enter into relationships and are surprised at the lack of romance in them.

And where does it come from? Judge for yourself: ENTJ is Te-dom, ESTJ is Te-dom ... Thinker-thinker, extrovert-extrovert. They should rather start a business or other mutually beneficial cooperation. Many, by the way, consider marriage in this vein and get along well together.

But it is precisely to attract - in the most romantic sense of the word - thinkers to each other will not. Not only because similar to similar does not stretch, but also because of different psychosexual types. ENTJ is a victim (Ni-dom) , and he needs an aggressor (Se-dom). And ESTJ is caring (Si-dom) and need the infantile (Ne-dom).

Not what it seems
Sensing is responsible for sex and everything connected with it in MBTI. Depending on which of them - extraverted or introverted - is valuable for MBTI type, two psychosexual couples are distinguished: the victim-aggressor and the infantile-caring one.


I'll make a reservation right away: both “victim” and “infantile” are just terms. Don't forget about it!
Victims and aggressors: catch me if you can
But back to sensing. Se is responsible for the seizure of power and the division of territory, gives its owner rigidity (not to be confused with cruelty!) And the desire to go all-in - a kind of eternal existence on the edge.

Those who have Se in the dominant or auxillary (ESTP, ESFP, ISFP, ISTP) play the role of an aggressor in sexual scenarios. No, they do not beat their "victims" (INTJ, INFJ, ENFJ, ENTJ) and do not dream of tasting their blood. However, the victims themselves may well stand up for themselves if necessary. Another thing is that they do not want to do this. And they want to provoke the aggressor in every way, so that he takes them stronger and shows who is in charge.

The fact is that in the so-called tertiary and inferior functions, which are responsible for basic needs, the victims have Se. It is valuable, but they have little of it - they want to "get" from the outside. And who, if not the partner to whom our needs are primarily addressed? Even if he is unable to satisfy them.

Eternal Wishlist
Because someone cannot satisfy them, a person's needs do not change and do not cease to be transmitted to the outside world. Victim lacks Se - through it he feels support in life, reliability and protection, and in the end he feels alive. It sends the request outward. It so happened that it looks like a pure provocation, as if he, victim, "runs into". But he gets, as you might guess, not always what he unconsciously hoped for.

Victim's request is like a provocation. The more "hungry" he is, the more desperate she looks. But the "hungry" aggressor, on the contrary, is ready to see provocation even where there is none, and at the same time to try to prove to everyone that he is in charge here. And in general that he is a man of amazing strength, moral and physical.

It is worth noting that not every aggressive person in the worst sense of the word who prefers to solve any problems with his fists is the agressor in question. It is very easy to find out “our”. Since the aggressors are strong Se-doms, it often seems to others that they literally exude strength and sometimes danger. They say about such people: “he has a heavy energy” or “a heavy look”, and sometimes even a “heavy hand”.


Caring and infantile: playing "mothers and daughters"
Caring (ESTJ, ESFJ, ISFJ, ISTJ) and infantile (INTP, INFP, ENFP, ENTP) - the owners of the valueable Si. They are distinguished by softness, leisurely sensuality and attention to shades of a variety of sensations. Their interaction is soft touches, muffled sounds, deep semitones. Those with a strong Si often express sympathy with warm hugs, gentle kisses, and gifts made with their own hands, such as a baked cupcake or a knitted scarf.

I'll tell you a secret: this caring really extends not only to loved ones. For example, a person with chronic lack of sleep is sitting at the lesson, desperately rubbing red eyes, and a caring person, instead of explaining something to him, wants to send him home - to sleep off.

Or, say, a friend jumps out after training with wet hair in the cold, and I just struggle with myself so as not to wrap him up in a scarf and hat. And you can't! Victims, for example, are seriously annoyed by such overprotection.

Infantiles are those who have Si in the tertiary or inferior position. Self-made cakes, knitted scarves symbolize exactly the language of love that is close to them.

Both caring and infantiles want to feel needed more than anything else. The former receive confirmation of the need, seeing that they are useful to someone, the latter - seeing how much they are ready to do for them.

By the way, it is caring and infantiles who most often “play” in BDSM.

I will say from my own observations: many victims, desperate to find real aggressors (or a couple of times almost bringing the caring ones to death), go to BDSM. Many, however, are disappointed to find that everything is there for fun. But in reality - this is when there is absolutely no stop word.

What if the pair did not match?
I will not tell you what to do in a situation when the pair instead of the “necessary” partner turned out to be another. More precisely, like this: I will say that MBTI orders to disperse (people do not change). Partners usually mimic such situations. That is, having found out through trial, error and long conversations, what the partner still wants, they try to portray it - to mimic his dual.

Dual couples are conceived so as to ideally coincide on all points: paired with an aggressor, always victim, with a caring one - infantile. In practice, a perfect match is rarely obtained, and the problem is solved by a kind of "adjustment":

Infantiles try to get used to being too tightly hugged by an aggressor partner.
Victims learn to accept and appreciate the care of their (sorry for the tautology) caring partners.
Caring people sometimes adapt to play the role of infantiles in pairs with their own kind. For example, a pair of ESTJ-ESTJ is not such a rarity, especially if they have several business projects for both.
The same situation is in victim-victim and infantile-infantile pairs.
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2020.10.26 00:50 NoContact_ Hey! I've take countless tests and really studied myers-briggs for years, and still come up empty as far as typing myself goes. I'd appreciate if somebody could help me with this, thanks! :))

Describe yourself in as much elaborate detail as possible (that still renders you anonymous, or to a level of acceptable comfort)
I'm a 20 year old guy. Generally described as a laid back, easy-going, chill person. My interests include: computer science, programming, psychology (to a huge extent lmao I love psychology), chess, philosophy, politics, economic theory, game theory, fashion, self-care related activities and going out drinking and partying at every opportunity possible! I've recently developed a bit of a passion for cultivating wholesome and long-lasting friendships; they really add meaning to my life unlike anything else, and I'm honestly a little regretful that I didn't start actively trying to do this earlier in my life. I'm good at being both down-to-earth and realistic about things, while at the same time being emotionally expressive enough to make people both like and feel comfortable around me. I used to be quite rigid and intimidating a few years ago to outsiders (got called out on being a bit cold, trying to be spot on with everything and being a bit egotistical), but recently, I've been getting told that I've changed a lot and that I seem much happier and "alive" and less like a robot haha. I've trailed a little here, so I do apologise for turning an otherwise simple question into a wall of text haha.
Why are you interested in knowing your type?
Because despite being very knowledgeable about myers-briggs and having a good idea of what my type could be (ENTP and INTP being my two most likely predictions), I'm honestly just interested in hearing outsider opinions. I feel like when I've been taking tests, I've intentionally tailored my answers to fit what I want my result to be, instead of finding out my genuine type. I have a habit of making myself fit a mold that I want to belong to, as opposed to just "being myself" and answering honestly. I've tested (or, more accurately, made myself test) in the past as: ESTP, ESFP, ENTP, ENFP, INTP and ISTP.
Do you go to work and/or you in school? If so, what field/occupation/subjects?
I'm working part-time in a warehouse while studying full-time at my local college, having worked full-time, 40-44 hour weeks for the past two years before and saving up money. I'm doing an introductory computer science course at the moment, which I'm aiming to use as a springboard for getting into one of the top universities in my country (various reasons for why I want to go to a "top" one that I don't want to end up fluffing the post with here).
Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?
Not really, no. My parents were religious, but neither of them were devout and I wouldn't say that religion played a major role in any of our lives at all. I've had a bit of a hands-off upbringing, generally speaking, in the sense that I was always given free reign over what I want to pursue and not pressured into going into anything that I didn't like or wasn't interested in. The downside of that ended up being that I was quite lazy and unmotivated due to not having any sense of direction in life, and that had its own consequences for me, such as not performing as well as I could have in school (despite getting overall good grades, I know I still could have done better) and missing opportunities in general that I am now trying to make up for. Overall, I would describe my upbringing as being relatively laissez-faire.
Do you need logical consistency in your life?
To an extent. I will admit that I am the type of person to try and rationalise most things and pick them apart to see how and why they work, and I get confused and sometimes a little irrational if I'm unable to come up with a logical explanation for something. Thankfully, I've slowly but surely been learning that not everything can be rationalised, nor does it have to be, and that that's okay.
How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about?
Very! I'm always coming up with personal theories as well as learning about those already established by others. My head is constantly buzzing with ideas that I know full well I'm probably not going to follow through with in the end, but the thrill of having these unexplored concepts pop up is a nice one anyway. My curiosities are generally related to what-if scenarios that pertain to both the outside world as well as my personal life (e.g. "what if the housing bubble never happened", "what if I mixed with X social group instead of Y group?"). My ideas are more about unexplored, never-done-before, innovative things that could impact the common person for years to come. I try to be a bit of an inventor without really having a good plan to lead me to execution tbh.
If money was not an issue, what careejob would you have?
I'd probably pick up an instrument and build up the confidence to get into performing! Something like that would push me out of my comfort zone a lot, while at the same time giving me the rapport to make good social connections and not feel outcasted all the time lol. I'm definitely a little embarrassed about not following through with my current idea to pick back up an instrument that I left years ago (namely, guitar) and just do it as a hobby.
Are you a free spirit or do you play by the rules? If so, why?
Free spirit, in the sense that I've always made my own rules and generally had a bit of a 'fuck-you' attitude towards established rules that I disliked. I've always seen them as restricting, and generally thought that they should always be questioned and picked apart for their legitimacy before being followed.
If I asked you to take a shot with a football how would that make you feel? Would you be able to do it well? Would you enjoy it?
Intimidated, but I would do it anyway. I'm sure that I could do it well if I lined up the shot well, but who knows; I'm not much of a football player tbh. I'm sure I'd enjoy it. I'd also definitely practice and get better at it if I had a friend group that was into it, though!
If I asked you to write me an essay, would you enjoy it? What would it be about? How would it make you feel?
I'd either enjoy or be bored out of my mind depending on whether it's a subject that I'm passionate about. Since I've been offered a choice of subject here, I guess that I would probably write about something related to to politics, economics or psychology? I can't give a concrete answer here because there are so many different things that I could write about and I'd hate to restrict myself to just one. It would probably make me feel like I'm doing something productive, while at the same time admittedly being a little draining ig.
Is it okay to crack a few eggs? If it makes an omelette? Do the ends justify the means?
Vague question, so I'll answer it with my default response: it depends. Sometimes you do have to sacrifice in certain areas of your life if you want to achieve a personal greater good. As for the second part, honestly, I feel like that's just an excuse made for reprehensible and reckless behaviours, under the guise that "haha but look everything is amazing now UwU". I don't think that the ends justify the means at all in most situations.
Do you put things back in their proper place?
Ouch, now you're really hitting me where it hurts. The answer is a resounding, fat, "No". I put things in whatever random slots I can find and tend to lose them a lot; definitely not an organised person.
How do you behave around strangers, acquaintances and friends?
To strangers and acquaintances, I'm generally aloof and approachable, usually analysing their personality piece by piece constantly to determine how they would respond if I showed them the deeper parts of my personality. Around friends, I'm generally more emotionally expressive than normal, trying my best not to feel afraid to hold anything back and just let the wholesome love and attention for them pour out. I try to make people feel involved and appreciated, and it does kinda pain me when the other person is not interested in receiving that kind of attention.
Do you have exquisite tastes that you would expend effort or money for?
(Quick disclaimer: I've wrote my responses to these answers in one quick burst, so the quality of responses may go downhill from here.)
Fashion without a doubt. I'm more than happy to go out of my own way to find the most fashionable, best-looking, stylish, complementary etc. clothing so that I can look good and feel appreciated by other people. That's really about the only one that I can think of tbh but, yeah, definitely fashion.
How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?
Generally quite neutral, but also more than happy to give a helping hand if it's needed. I would decide to help them if I feel like what they need help with is important, as well as the fact that I respect them and want the best for them because of that.
How long do you take to make an important decision? How would you go about it? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
I'm a very indecisive person a lot of the time, however, I'm definitely capable of having 'tunnel-vision' moments where I emotionally invest in a decision/idea heavily and execute it to the best of my ability. The problem is that in practice, that's usually stopped in its tracks by me changing my mind or losing the flare/passion that I had for it.
If I asked you to design a plan of action, would it be easier to work alone or in a group? Do you ask for others opinion? or stick to your own guns?
In a group. Doing everything alone is usually a good indicator that I'm just not going to follow through. With a group, on the other hand, I have accountability partners that will be let down if I'm not there when they need me most, so I definitely tend to work better with other people in that area. I ask for other people's opinions a lot, and I do modify my own behaviours/views if they're not consistent with mine.
A weekend best spent looks like ...?
Partying it up like crazy with both already-established friends as well as new acquaintances that I can have the time of my life with, and hopefully develop long-lasting friendships from.
My biggest fears are ...
Becoming a social pariah. Being abandoned by the people that I care about. Being betrayed.
How much do you express yourself and what mediums do you do that through? Art? Writing? Talking?
Emotionally, not too much (I can take a while to trust other people with my feelings), but I'm definitely very expressive with new theories or ideas that I have. I generally do it through talking as well as writing.
Generally where do you lean politically? Is it every man for himself? Should people be pragmatic? Does the government need to step in and help people?
If we're going to use the political compass (bleh) as a reference, then I used to be on the libertarian-right side of things, but I've recently moved hard towards the libertarian-left side. "Every man for himself" sounds to me like a recipe for a free-for-all clusterfuck where the 1% get everything, and the remaining 99% are left screwed over to varying degrees depending on how financially depraved they are. That said, I'm also huge on anti-authoritarian ideals; I don't think that it's the government's place to dictate people's lives (e.g. I'm very pro-choice, pro-LGBT, mixed opinions on gun rights), nor should it be more powerful and armed than the people. A government should be easy to overthrow if corruption begins to run rampant. I do believe in social safety nets as well as allocating resources to those who need them most.
Does it matter if something is factually correct for you to believe in it?
Yes, absolutely.
Are emotions/feelings an important aspect of your life? If so, then why?
They are, and I've underestimated their importance for too long. While they don't tend to drive my decision-making to nearly the same extent as logic does, they do play an important role in me feeling like I'm alive and human, and not just something made to live and die.
How attached are you to reality?
I have my head in the clouds a lot tbh, but I'm also very good at being down-to-earth when I need to be. I'd say I'm 60% head in the clouds, 40% in touch with reality.
How thick skinned are you? Are you sensitive to criticism?
Used to be an extremely sensitive kid that could dish it out but not take it, but I've improved a lot on that since then. I take very few things personally these days, and I actually appreciate criticism a lot because I see it as an opportunity to grow and changed in a positive way.
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2020.10.24 07:10 vanalm I don't think I have a 'love language'

I'm ISTP-Female- My fiance always tells me that he doesn't feel like I love or even care about him. So I listened to the audiobook, "The 5 Love Languages". Supposedly everyone has a primary love language, which is a thing their partner does that makes them feel loved. They are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.
My fiance demands all 5 from me and it's so draining. But when I look at myself, I don't think I need any of these things. I'm perfectly content without them. I'm wondering if there's something wrong with me, or if other ISTPs don't really have a love language either.
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2020.10.23 04:25 Snoo30881 Ladies, what type are you with?

I’m a 29 F ISTP (enneagram 6)..curious to know who you all are with (if you’re with anyone at all).
I have dated a lot and MAN. What an exhausting few years it’s been! Lol
Would love to know what types you have successfully partnered with.
And where did you guys meet?
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2020.10.21 17:21 JayJayll Why each MBTI is in jail

INTJ: Either genocide or buying feces from the dark web, you choose
INTP: Was supposed to get pulled over for speeding, but then had five police cars chasing them because they were too afraid to talk to the officer
ENTJ: When their partner asked to be dominated, they thought they meant murder
ENTP: Tried flirting to a cop by talking about kidnapping, because they thought it was something you guys could both relate too
ISTJ: Faked their identity just so that they could get more coupons at Walmart
ISFJ: Nobody knows why your in prison either, but everyone hates you here
ESTJ: Tried to make someone happier by slapping them and screaming “stop crying.”
ESFJ: Saw a really nice man getting arrested for selling drugs and described to take full blame for any of the strangers actions because you knew deep down that they were just misunderstood
INFJ: Tried to influence people to murder because it would help with over population
INFP: Saw the beauty in a hit and run, and decided to pursue their dream
ENFJ: Set someone’s house on fire, just so they could say that they saved everyone from a house set on fire
ENFP: Signed up to be a bartender at a party when they had no experience, and ended up mixing gasoline in all the drinks
ISTP: Started beating up a barista just because they had a minor inconvenience today
ISFP: Had to rob because they “surprising” went broke after leaving their entire life behind for a music career
ESTP: Explained calmly to a cop they couldn’t have their license provoked if they never had one to begin with, and thought they that seriously wouldn’t get arrested
ESFP: Tried setting fireworks off at a funeral because they thought it would make people feel better
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2020.10.21 16:26 israelipita Does anyone else have a problem with ghosting people?

I am a college age female istp and I've noticed that as time goes on I start to value long term relationships less and less. It's easy for me to cut people off when they annoy me or do things I disagree with, even when I have known them for years. A lot of other people in my life tend to work to repair relationships/forgive easily and I just don't have that ability. I recently cut someone out of my life that was a friend for two years because I just got tired of their behavior and how they treat others. Even with family I would have no problem with cutting them off besides my parents and sibling. When I have disagreements with my partner the first thing I think is to just break up and not try to work it out even when it's minor. I feel like as I've gotten oldemore confident I value relationships less and I could see myself ending up completely alone. Does anyone else feel like this?
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2020.10.16 23:21 PFSGTA Why is sharing the N/S trait important in romantic relationships?

On 16Personalities, under the Romantic Relationships tab, they suggest that the "best" partners will share either the S or N personality type. Why is that?
Direct quote from ISTP page:
The best partners usually share Virtuosos’ Observant (S) trait, that interest in what the world is here and now, with one or two opposing traits to help them to explore a world that also involves other people and others’ expectations.
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2020.10.15 04:05 mchu24 Please help this INTP how to be more "Feeling"?

Hello my fellow INFJ's,
I feel like you guys are the only ones I can turn to for advice on people-related things. So thank you again for your help in advance!
I'm dating an ISTP who has issues with expressing anger. His flight-or-fight response is basically just to freeze and not react. From what he told me, he was always incapable of healthily expressing anger even if someone wronged him unjustly whether at work or in his personal life. Instead, he just remains quiet and lets whatever issue slide. I'm concerned about how his inability to express anger will play out in our relationship eventually.
So more recently, we were having a discussion in which he asked me a question. I gave him an answer. He didn't think the answer was right, so he kept elaborating on the word he was looking for. After his elaborated explanation, I still gave him the same initial answer as it still fits with the context he described. He kept saying no, he thinks it's something else. He elaborated further and even tried to guess the answer which phonetically sounds almost similar to my original answer but is way off in terms of the context. So I got annoyed by his lack of ability to listen and the third time I repeated the same answer and I didn't realize I came off as "angry" sounding this time around. He said: "You don't have to get angry". I told him I wasn't angry. But I noticed his mood completely changed after that and he became withdrawn. I apologized and was sorry for sounding harsh. He said I should just be myself. Later, he admitted that my reaction made him feel stupid. But no amount of apologies got to him or enabled me to connect to him in any way. He was still closed in.
Only way later did I realize "Maybe he was angry at my reaction, and he couldn't even express himself". He's a person who withdraws internally whenever he feels negative emotions. I know he definitely needs a feeler to help him work through these emotionally bumpy roads in life. I want to be that person but I feel like my inferior Fe or being a Thinker blinds me in certain ways. How can I show up for my partner emotionally whenever there are conflicts? I'm very solution-oriented, but I have a hard time addressing emotions themselves.
TLDR; Solution-oriented INTP wants to be able to bring out another thinker's emotional side in a relationship. I am emotionally-challenged and looking for INFJ's help. Thanks!
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2020.10.11 15:29 khxpri I (INFP) need advice on how to help my partner (ISTP)!

hello there! this is one of my first posts on my new reddit account!
I need some help about how I can best help my partner (an ISTP)- recently he's been falling back into his depression and I'm trying to help him the best I can!
I've looked into how various types cope with stress and/or depression, but I was wondering if any of you would like to share some things that have helped you with mental health, as well as specific things that could help your type while under stress, or even other related advice!
tips and tricks are welcome! <33
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2020.10.08 10:45 FelyneBean I adore you

Hello!
I’m an INFP (F) and I just wanted this subreddit to know how much I adore the ISTP type. Even tho my fav type is ISTJ lol.
As someone who is imaginative, silly, who overthinks or gets worried easily, etc. — I really appreciate this type which seems to be polar opposite of my own.
I’m trying my best to not take things so personal, I’m trying to learn how to stop overthinking most interactions I have.
ISTPs are pretty inspiring to me, I keep you guys in mind when trying to better myself.
To be honest, it really sucks needing validation that any friend I have or partner I date doesn’t secretly dislike me or want to get rid of me.
That is why I’m trying to work on trust and
I need to understand that not everyone sees the relationship I have with them as deep or important as I see it.
It’s easier said than done :\ that’s for sure
Anyway...
Thanks for reading this and keep being you.
With much respect and admiration,
An INFP
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2020.10.05 01:28 14_Hiatus Your Opinion On INFJs? (ISTPs Only)

Just wanted to know, because I'm writing a story where the main character is an INFJ and her girlfriend is an ISTP. And I'd like to know more of the romantic relationship dynamics and what you guys think of INFJs being a potential romantic partner. Opinions on friendship or other forms of relationships with INFJs are also appreciated and welcomed.
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2020.10.04 14:00 spence100 Lots of sex with most MBTI types, AMA!

Yo guys,
I’ve had quite a lot of hookups/girls I’ve dated (80 or so partners) and have always been fascinated with seeing how each type is in bed. I’d say 70% of them took the test and told me their type, 20% I am decently certain of, and the other 10% I’m unsure but took a shot in the dark.
I’m more than happy to answer any questions you have about my experiences through the years with any of the types and patterns I’ve seen - can keep it general or ask anything specific. View my thread history to see a couple other MBTI thoughts related mega posts I’ve made if you’re interested.
To start ya off, here’s the approximate breakdown of number of hookups I’ve had with each type.
ENFJ: 14
ESFP: 11
ENFP: 10
ESFJ: 9
INFP: 7
INFJ: 6
ISFJ: 5
ENTP: 5
ENTJ: 4
ESTP: 2
ISTP: 2
INTJ: 2
INTP: 1
ESTJ: 1
ISFP: 1
ISTJ: 1
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2020.10.03 16:53 sosyncd New podcast: Personality Love Lab by So Syncd

Hi! Hope everyone is well. It’s Jess (INFP) and Lou (ESFJ) here again from the So Syncd personality type dating app. Things have been going well with the app - we are growing quickly and over 150 couples have now found each other through So Syncd! We very much appreciate the feedback that some of you have shared and we are working hard on some big changes.
We wanted to flag our new podcast called Personality Love Lab. We noticed that there are a lot of resources about the theory behind Myers-Briggs but not many examples of how it plays out in real life. Personality Love Lab is a series of interviews with real couples of different personality types.
In the most recent episode, we interviewed Andy McNab (ex-special forces hero, functioning psychopath and best-selling author) and his wife, Lily. He’s an ISTP and she’s an ESFJ. The episode before is about a couple who met on So Syncd. We have interviewed more ISFJs than any other personality type! Episodes two, four, six and eight are interviews where one half is an ISFJ and we recorded an episode with an ISFJ-ESFJ couple last night.
We are just starting to record the second season and we are looking for couples who are interested in being interviewed. It’s just audio and we can change your names if you’d prefer. The couples we’ve interviewed so far have loved it. We even had someone cry because he was so touched by what his partner (an ISFJ) was saying about him (an ISTP of all the personality types!). Please email us at [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]) if you are interested in taking part :-).
Anyway, we hope you find it interesting and would appreciate any feedback! It's available on Spotify, Google Podcasts and Apple Podcasts. Here are the links:
Apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/personality-love-lab/id1521333665
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/56ODbsOfmbxDe4mYo4mDQt?si=ptT42-RaQ-GYJD4eGCiUEw
Personality Love Lab website: https://www.personalitylovelab.com/
So Syncd website: https://www.sosyncd.com
Jess and Lou x
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2020.10.03 16:46 sosyncd New podcast: Personality Love Lab by So Syncd

Hi! Hope everyone is well. It’s Jess (INFP) and Lou (ESFJ) here again from the So Syncd personality type dating app. Things have been going well with the app - we are growing quickly and over 150 couples have now found each other through So Syncd! We very much appreciate the feedback that some of you have shared and we are working hard on some big changes.
We wanted to flag our new podcast called Personality Love Lab. We noticed that there are a lot of resources about the theory behind Myers-Briggs but not many examples of how it plays out in real life. Personality Love Lab is a series of interviews with real couples of different personality types.
In the most recent episode, we interviewed Andy McNab (ex-special forces hero, functioning psychopath and best-selling author) and his wife, Lily. He’s an ISTP and she’s an ESFJ. The episode before is about a couple who met on So Syncd. We are yet to interview a couple where one half is an ISTJ, but we're very keen to!
We are just starting to record the second season and we are looking for couples who are interested in being interviewed. It’s just audio and we can change your names if you’d prefer. The couples we’ve interviewed so far have loved it. We even had someone cry because he was so touched by what his partner was saying (an ISTP of all the personality types!). Please email us at [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]) if you are interested in taking part :-).
Anyway, we hope you find it interesting and would appreciate any feedback! It's available on Spotify, Google Podcasts and Apple Podcasts. Here are the links:
Apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/personality-love-lab/id1521333665
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/56ODbsOfmbxDe4mYo4mDQt?si=ptT42-RaQ-GYJD4eGCiUEw
Personality Love Lab website: https://www.personalitylovelab.com/
So Syncd website: https://www.sosyncd.com
Jess and Lou x
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2020.10.03 16:33 sosyncd New podcast: Personality Love Lab by So Syncd

Hi! Hope everyone is well. It’s Jess (INFP) and Lou (ESFJ) here again from the So Syncd personality type dating app. Things have been going well with the app - we are growing quickly and over 150 couples have now found each other through So Syncd! We very much appreciate the feedback that some of you have shared and we are working hard on some big changes.
We wanted to flag our new podcast called Personality Love Lab. We noticed that there are a lot of resources about the theory behind Myers-Briggs but not many examples of how it plays out in real life. Personality Love Lab is a series of interviews with real couples of different personality types.
In the most recent episode, we interviewed Andy McNab (ex-special forces hero, functioning psychopath and best-selling author) and his wife, Lily. He’s an ISTP and she’s an ESFJ. The episode before is about a couple who met on So Syncd. It's a very lovely story - one of them is an INFJ and the other is an ENFJ :-).
We are just starting to record the second season and we are looking for couples who are interested in being interviewed. It’s just audio and we can change your names if you’d prefer. The couples we’ve interviewed so far have loved it. We even had someone cry because he was so touched by what his partner was saying (an ISTP of all the personality types!). Please email us at [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]) if you are interested in taking part :-).
Anyway, we hope you find it interesting and would appreciate any feedback! It's available on Spotify, Google Podcasts and Apple Podcasts. Here are the links:
Apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/personality-love-lab/id1521333665
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/56ODbsOfmbxDe4mYo4mDQt?si=ptT42-RaQ-GYJD4eGCiUEw
Personality Love Lab website: https://www.personalitylovelab.com/
So Syncd website: https://www.sosyncd.com
Jess and Lou x
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