Dating homebody

How do you figure out if you're the problem?

2020.12.05 08:48 questions192837465 How do you figure out if you're the problem?

Am I to much to deal with? Or have I just been unlucky so far? I (29F) just broke up with/was dumped by my boyfriend (29M). Not really sure who called it in the end but yeah.
He said some stuff in parting, of course in anger, that is really sticking with me. I can recognize his issues and why he said what he said to hurt me. And normally I acknowledge these aspects of myself and even have pride in one or two. I also know that I'm a fairly passionate person and just won't mesh with some people.
I'm a combat military veteran, I am rated disabled by the VA for PTSD among other things. I take antidepressants and I'm not ashamed to admit that. I think this has been a down year for everyone, but its been one of my lowest in awhile. I never hid or downplayed that to him. My friends know but they don't "get" it so I don't talk about it and they aren't really aware of the fluctuations in my mood.
I appear to be well off financially (covid has fucked me over but hey) and that intimidates a lot of guys. I'm also not a small woman. I'm not fat, 5ft 9in and 180, but I'm not delicate by a long shot. Also intimidating apparently. And being in the military I have a very strong personality. I'm not rude, thats one of my biggest pet peeves but I'm not shy about stating my opinion. I asked friends and family if I was overbearing and they all resolutely said no. I'm a dominant type a personality but a very respectful person.
Lastly, I have a lot of animals. I love animals and I have had the resources, space and knowledge to rescue so I did. Now I'm not over here with a pack of dogs, more tanks. But I have 2 dogs, 2 cats, 3 small animals, 5 reptiles, and 3 fish tanks. They are all in great shape and see a vet regularly, yes even the exotics. I never ask for help with their care. I also don't feel that they hold me back from doing anything. Yes feeding takes about 30min but other than letting the dogs out I don't miss out on social stuff due to my zoo.
Basically he said that no one will ever want to put up with my zoo. And that they are an unhealthy coping mechanism for my depression. I will admit I'm more drawn to adopt another animal when I'm depressed. The work that goes into preparing their habitat distracts me and having them depend on me makes it easier to get out of bed and give them care or go to work to buy their food.
He said I use my depression to distance myself from people and I'll never beat it if I don't start forcing myself to be more social. I hang out with friends once or twice a week at their house or mine, maybe we grab dinner but thats about it. Kinda a homebody
Lastly, and this one hit harder. That I say I want a dominant guy but I don't let them be that way. That I say I want an old school, guy treats girl like a princess relationship but my personality is to aggressive. And that part bothers me, he was a doormat and let ppl walk all over him. I had told him when we met I couldn't stand that. In my job I literally tell people what to do all day. From when to step, how to hold their hands, coach their tone of voice. When I get home, I'm done. I don't want more decisions, just tell me where they want to get food from, or what movie they wanna watch. If I have an opinion I'll tell them. Otherwise I just wanna spend time with them.
I've only had a couple serious relationships. I didn't start dating till after high school, 2 deployments also took up some time. Met the ex on an app. With little history to pull from I can't tell if I'm the overall reason things don't last and I need to work on myself or if I've just been unlucky. I'm the only one in my family still single and they've been married for awhile. He was supposed to go with me for the holidays and now I'm going to be showing up almost 30 and still alone. Its just really getting to me right now.
Thanks for reading this book of a post lol
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2020.12.05 02:02 ManCalledMolly 41 [M4F] Kansas City - Looking for a friend or more in the Midwest.

Hello!
I'm a New York native who moved to Kansas City in 2015 for an opportunity that was too good to ignore. I've fallen in love with this charming city. Having known nothing about it previously, I've been impressed by the great food, the good people, and the robust music scene. I currently live in a two-bedroom apartment in Midtown. Just a boy and his dog. No pesky roommates.
I'm attractive and in great shape. Most people think I look younger than my age. I have dark eyes, a full head of dark hair that's slowly going grey, a bit of well-groomed scruff, and naturally tan skin. No tattoos currently, though I'd like to get a sleeve someday. With respect to your appearance, I don't really have strong preferences, but I tend to gravitate towards women with slim to average frames and a "girly" personality.
I'm recently out of a long-term relationship and dipping my toes back into the dating pool. My goal is to meet an interesting woman and develop a friendship that might evolve into something that endures, but I also don’t intend to rush anything.
With the exception of a fulfilling relationship with a loving partner, I've got my life in order. Hopefully, you've got some degree of stability and minimal drama. Ideally, you're independent and have a job that you enjoy.
Important to know:
Politically, I'm a "progressive". If you have some "conservative" views or positions, that's probably not an issue. However, if you're a passionate supporter and defender of Trump, that tells me a lot about you, and we will definitely not get along.
Some things I enjoy:
  • Food: Self-styled non-pretentious foodie with a very adventurous palate. I love trying new foods. I have a personal rule that I try to avoid eating at the same restaurant twice. You don't have to be quite so brave or adhere to this rule! My favorite thing to eat is definitely sushi. If you're a vegan/vegetarian, I respect that! That is not a problem for me, and I'm actually open to the idea of a lax form of vegetarianism myself. I'm also a serviceable cook, though I don't really enjoy cooking. I'm a great dish-washer!
  • Fitness: My health is important to me, especially as I get older. I exercise regularly and have also begun to enjoy running. I’d welcome a workout buddy.
  • Reading: Hard to beat being curled up with my Kindle and my dog. I mostly read non-fiction, particularly books focused on political and social topics.
  • Film/television: I enjoy watching movies and going to the theater, particularly for big-ticket spectacles like the Marvel films or for movies that benefit from a crowd.
  • Games: A good form of escapism for me, especially these days where most social activities are curtailed. I tend to play single-player video games that let me pick up and play or pause anytime. I also enjoy board-gaming with friends. My favorite are ones that involve some sort of social component and deduction, like Resistance or Werewolf.
  • Music: I really enjoy concerts and live music. I'm tolerant of just about any genre but gravitate towards indie/pop/EDM. I love discovering new music, so if you want to share something you're digging right now and think I might enjoy, that would be amazing.
  • Dancing: I have a blast going out and busting a move and would like to do it more. No experience with any actual forms, but I'd love to learn something like the salsa.
  • Animals: Lover of all animals, hater of insects. I have one dog. He's a small and fluffy Pekingese and he adooooores attention. I promise he'll love you.
  • Cleaning: I keep both my home and myself neat and tidy. I’m something of a minimalist as well. Not a big fan of collecting tons of trinkets and tchotchkes.
  • Travel: I'm more of a homebody, but I do enjoy road trips. Nothing better than stopping at all the fun rest areas along the way, or using Atlas Obscura to find interesting things off the beaten path. I'd like to drive across the country in a camper someday.
  • Coffee: I actually don't like the taste of coffee but I love caffeine, so... I'm currently experimenting with pour-over brewing. Guess it's my quarantine project? I've been slowly piecing together the gear for it. If it doesn't pan out, there's always tea, right?
One other thing you might wanna know:
I find that I'm most sexually compatible with kinky, submissive women who can fuel my dominant side, but it's not critically important. I am not interested in "hotwifing"; If you need to be shared with other men, I am not the right guy for you. I'm also not bisexual, but it's perfectly fine with me if you are and want to explore that side of yourself. Lastly, I'm not interested in a "24/7 BDSM lifestyle" relationship. Outside the bedroom, I like my partner smart, independent, and capable.
I think that about covers it for now! If you're serious about meeting me in person, reach out to me and let's chat and set something up. Don't be timid!
Long-distance respondents: I'd love hearing from you, but only if you're willing to make a real effort to meet me after we talk and get to know one another. Ideally, you're in a position where you're able to relocate to Kansas City to live with me in a hypothetical future in which we're both committed and seriously into one another.
Please send me a message instead of using Reddit chat. Mobile apps don't do chat, so I won't be able to respond as quickly.
Hope to hear from you!
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2020.12.05 02:02 ManCalledMolly 41 [M4F] Kansas City - Looking for a friend or more in the Midwest.

Hello!
I'm a New York native who moved to Kansas City in 2015 for an opportunity that was too good to ignore. I've fallen in love with this charming city. Having known nothing about it previously, I've been impressed by the great food, the good people, and the robust music scene. I currently live in a two-bedroom apartment in Midtown. Just a boy and his dog. No pesky roommates.
I'm attractive and in great shape. Most people think I look younger than my age. I have dark eyes, a full head of dark hair that's slowly going grey, a bit of well-groomed scruff, and naturally tan skin. No tattoos currently, though I'd like to get a sleeve someday. With respect to your appearance, I don't really have strong preferences, but I tend to gravitate towards women with slim to average frames and a "girly" personality.
I'm recently out of a long-term relationship and dipping my toes back into the dating pool. My goal is to meet an interesting woman and develop a friendship that might evolve into something that endures, but I also don’t intend to rush anything.
With the exception of a fulfilling relationship with a loving partner, I've got my life in order. Hopefully, you've got some degree of stability and minimal drama. Ideally, you're independent and have a job that you enjoy.
Important to know:
Politically, I'm a "progressive". If you have some "conservative" views or positions, that's probably not an issue. However, if you're a passionate supporter and defender of Trump, that tells me a lot about you, and we will definitely not get along.
Some things I enjoy:
  • Food: Self-styled non-pretentious foodie with a very adventurous palate. I love trying new foods. I have a personal rule that I try to avoid eating at the same restaurant twice. You don't have to be quite so brave or adhere to this rule! My favorite thing to eat is definitely sushi. If you're a vegan/vegetarian, I respect that! That is not a problem for me, and I'm actually open to the idea of a lax form of vegetarianism myself. I'm also a serviceable cook, though I don't really enjoy cooking. I'm a great dish-washer!
  • Fitness: My health is important to me, especially as I get older. I exercise regularly and have also begun to enjoy running. I’d welcome a workout buddy.
  • Reading: Hard to beat being curled up with my Kindle and my dog. I mostly read non-fiction, particularly books focused on political and social topics.
  • Film/television: I enjoy watching movies and going to the theater, particularly for big-ticket spectacles like the Marvel films or for movies that benefit from a crowd.
  • Games: A good form of escapism for me, especially these days where most social activities are curtailed. I tend to play single-player video games that let me pick up and play or pause anytime. I also enjoy board-gaming with friends. My favorite are ones that involve some sort of social component and deduction, like Resistance or Werewolf.
  • Music: I really enjoy concerts and live music. I'm tolerant of just about any genre but gravitate towards indie/pop/EDM. I love discovering new music, so if you want to share something you're digging right now and think I might enjoy, that would be amazing.
  • Dancing: I have a blast going out and busting a move and would like to do it more. No experience with any actual forms, but I'd love to learn something like the salsa.
  • Animals: Lover of all animals, hater of insects. I have one dog. He's a small and fluffy Pekingese and he adooooores attention. I promise he'll love you.
  • Cleaning: I keep both my home and myself neat and tidy. I’m something of a minimalist as well. Not a big fan of collecting tons of trinkets and tchotchkes.
  • Travel: I'm more of a homebody, but I do enjoy road trips. Nothing better than stopping at all the fun rest areas along the way, or using Atlas Obscura to find interesting things off the beaten path. I'd like to drive across the country in a camper someday.
  • Coffee: I actually don't like the taste of coffee but I love caffeine, so... I'm currently experimenting with pour-over brewing. Guess it's my quarantine project? I've been slowly piecing together the gear for it. If it doesn't pan out, there's always tea, right?
One other thing you might wanna know:
I find that I'm most sexually compatible with kinky, submissive women who can fuel my dominant side, but it's not critically important. I am not interested in "hotwifing"; If you need to be shared with other men, I am not the right guy for you. I'm also not bisexual, but it's perfectly fine with me if you are and want to explore that side of yourself. Lastly, I'm not interested in a "24/7 BDSM lifestyle" relationship. Outside the bedroom, I like my partner smart, independent, and capable.
I think that about covers it for now! If you're serious about meeting me in person, reach out to me and let's chat and set something up. Don't be timid!
Long-distance respondents: I'd love hearing from you, but only if you're willing to make a real effort to meet me after we talk and get to know one another. Ideally, you're in a position where you're able to relocate to Kansas City to live with me in a hypothetical future in which we're both committed and seriously into one another.
Please send me a message instead of using Reddit chat. Mobile apps don't do chat, so I won't be able to respond as quickly.
Hope to hear from you!
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2020.12.05 01:04 purplepotato199o [M4f] 21 looking for true love

Hey I'm Derrick live in New Jersey looking for a serious relationship a bit about me I'm into gaming actually built a pc for my self and my sister and her boyfriend even my mom lol mostly play fps and also into open world when I'm not doing that im watching Netflix just watch random things on there im a homebody but I do love going to theme parks especially hershey park I also have a train layout its a 4x8 but I have loads of fun with it is like my side hobby for me I work night shift at a store on a militarily base if you are wondering
As of how I would be as a boyfriend I a very loving person I'm a huge cuddler kisser huger I love to go on dates or just stay home and enjoy your company i also just want to let you know I do have add and asburgers so sometimes I do say things I don't mean or just don't understand as quickly to emotions im sorry if that's a deal breaker also have never had my first kiss or even a physical girlfriend yet so I have loads of love built up i do get Jelous easy and very overprotective and once im into you i never want to let you go i don't cheat and never will im very loyal I'm open to long distance as long as it turns into a US getting together
As for my future I'm hoping to live in hershey pa because I've been wanting to live there most of my life and hope to have kids but im fine if you don't want any eather is ok
My last thing is I also have a thing for feet its not sexual but if its a deal breaker im sorry about that if you want to know about just ask me
Thanks for reading and I hope to hear from you
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2020.12.05 00:46 PokerDreams23 27 [M4F] Canada/anywhere - Hoping to eventually find “the one”, but open to online friendships

Haven’t found any luck in real life or dating apps, especially with the virus out, so thought I’d give this a shot!
A few things about me:
Friends have described me as open-minded, easy-going, and humble person. I’ll try anything once and will always push to try new things. Personal growth (physical and mental) is very important to me. I’ve been improving my lifestyle everyday; been going to the gym, watching what I eat; just improving myself in general. Been on a fitness journey, so trying to get that fit body that every guy dreams about.
I enjoy being active, going to events, trying out new food, and doing different activities (movies, sports, escape room, sight seeing) as much as I like cozier nights spent indoors just cuddling up and watching something on Netflix or engaging in deep conversations. I fully enjoy being a homebody. It’s all about that balance between JOMO and FOMO. I like sports, gym, video games, live music, anime, poker, and many more (endless activities I just enjoy). I’m currently listening to EDM but enjoy hip hop and rap, and I’ve been playing League of Legends, though I have many games I’ve purchased a while back ago and have yet to played/finished them. I was born and raised in Toronto, Canada but have been travelling all across Canada for work.
I run a business , and therefore make really good money. I live comfortably and own a luxurious car.
Pics:
Will be given through private message. Would prefer to have some anonymity through a public post. Pics will be exchanged in private message. Would like to see if there’s a physical attraction.
What I’m looking for:
I’d love to find someone who enjoys having conversations about anything and everything. Someone who is humble enough to enjoy my stupid humour and all of my goofiness. I can be very, very silly at times. I’m kind of open to anything at this point. In an ideal world I’d find “the one” and get married, but I’m always moving around so I don’t have the time to find “the one”. Then again, anything could happen. I’m open to having something long distance or mostly online. I also need a lot of “me time”, and will also give you the same. In a nutshell, I guess I just want someone who I can build a genuine friendship
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2020.12.05 00:45 PokerDreams23 27 [M4F] Canada/anywhere - Hoping to eventually find “the one”, but open to online friendships

Haven’t found any luck in real life or dating apps, especially with the virus out, so thought I’d give this a shot!
A few things about me:
Friends have described me as open-minded, easy-going, and humble person. I’ll try anything once and will always push to try new things. Personal growth (physical and mental) is very important to me. I’ve been improving my lifestyle everyday; been going to the gym, watching what I eat; just improving myself in general. Been on a fitness journey, so trying to get that fit body that every guy dreams about.
I enjoy being active, going to events, trying out new food, and doing different activities (movies, sports, escape room, sight seeing) as much as I like cozier nights spent indoors just cuddling up and watching something on Netflix or engaging in deep conversations. I fully enjoy being a homebody. It’s all about that balance between JOMO and FOMO. I like sports, gym, video games, live music, anime, poker, and many more (endless activities I just enjoy). I’m currently listening to EDM but enjoy hip hop and rap, and I’ve been playing League of Legends, though I have many games I’ve purchased a while back ago and have yet to played/finished them. I was born and raised in Toronto, Canada but have been travelling all across Canada for work.
I run a business , and therefore make really good money. I live comfortably and own a luxurious car.
Pics:
Will be given through private message. Would prefer to have some anonymity through a public post. Pics will be exchanged in private message. Would like to see if there’s a physical attraction.
What I’m looking for:
I’d love to find someone who enjoys having conversations about anything and everything. Someone who is humble enough to enjoy my stupid humour and all of my goofiness. I can be very, very silly at times. I’m kind of open to anything at this point. In an ideal world I’d find “the one” and get married, but I’m always moving around so I don’t have the time to find “the one”. Then again, anything could happen. I’m open to having something long distance or mostly online. I also need a lot of “me time”, and will also give you the same. In a nutshell, I guess I just want someone who I can build a genuine friendship
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2020.12.05 00:44 PokerDreams23 27 [M4F] Canada/anywhere - Hoping to eventually find “the one”, but open to online friendships

Haven’t found any luck in real life or dating apps, especially with the virus out, so thought I’d give this a shot!
A few things about me:
Friends have described me as open-minded, easy-going, and humble person. I’ll try anything once and will always push to try new things. Personal growth (physical and mental) is very important to me. I’ve been improving my lifestyle everyday; been going to the gym, watching what I eat; just improving myself in general. Been on a fitness journey, so trying to get that fit body that every guy dreams about.
I enjoy being active, going to events, trying out new food, and doing different activities (movies, sports, escape room, sight seeing) as much as I like cozier nights spent indoors just cuddling up and watching something on Netflix or engaging in deep conversations. I fully enjoy being a homebody. It’s all about that balance between JOMO and FOMO. I like sports, gym, video games, live music, anime, poker, and many more (endless activities I just enjoy). I’m currently listening to EDM but enjoy hip hop and rap, and I’ve been playing League of Legends, though I have many games I’ve purchased a while back ago and have yet to played/finished them. I was born and raised in Toronto, Canada but have been travelling all across Canada for work.
I run a business , and therefore make really good money. I live comfortably and own a luxurious car.
Pics:
Will be given through private message. Would prefer to have some anonymity through a public post. Pics will be exchanged in private message. Would like to see if there’s a physical attraction.
What I’m looking for:
I’d love to find someone who enjoys having conversations about anything and everything. Someone who is humble enough to enjoy my stupid humour and all of my goofiness. I can be very, very silly at times. I’m kind of open to anything at this point. In an ideal world I’d find “the one” and get married, but I’m always moving around so I don’t have the time to find “the one”. Then again, anything could happen. I’m open to having something long distance or mostly online. I also need a lot of “me time”, and will also give you the same. In a nutshell, I guess I just want someone who I can build a genuine friendship
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2020.12.03 05:43 _StickToYourGuns_ 31[M4F] - Anywhere - They don’t think it be like it is, but it do

I hope some of you are readers, cause this is going to rival "Remembrance of Things Past". Buckle up, you've been warned!
Let's start off with the easy stuff. My name is Craig, though I like to spell it Kreg. Why? Why not is the better question. I am 5'7", 165 lbs (that's ~ 170cm, 75 kg for you Canadians out there). I have long, curly brown hair, green eyes, a trimmed beard, and some wonderfully meaty thighs.
Why am I here? Great question! Dating apps suck in rural areas, so I need to expand my search. If I already have to look 60+ miles away, why not just go big? Besides that, in the already limited pool, I would say at least 25% are bots or people trying to get you to sign up for their OF, or they have the personality of a mop with one word replies.
I work as a software developer in the most exciting industry to ever exist: mortgage origination and refinances. If your mortgage is through a major bank, chances are my spaghetti code has helped shape your future. Sorry about that, it's a dumpster fire behind the scenes. I also dabble in game development and automation.
I'm a homeowner in Pennsylvania, but that's boring to talk about, because it's....Pennsylvania.
I have a greyhound named Murphy.
Some of my hobbies include playing guitar (mainly djent, metalcore, beatdown, etc), video games, programming, baseball, and photography. One of the more unique things about me is that I have a film degree and a computer science degree. Who would have thought a film degree wouldn't yield good job prospects in rural PA? Although working for myself was a pretty sweet gig.
My favorite music is metal and will always be that way. You can get a feel for my slammin' tunes in my work playlist. But if you don't like Babymetal, you are wrong. My sense of humor is dark, sarcastic, and not PC, just like every other dude in their 30's, right? With all that said, I am still a giant kid at heart. Speaking of kids, I am not at all open to them and that's a dealbreaker for me.
Here's a list of random things that don't really deserve a paragraph of their own:
Finally, I will wrap this novel up with what I ideally am looking for in a badass partner in crime. Please note that these are not requirements, just a "best case scenario" type thing.
Well if you've made it this far, please treat yourself to some fine leather goods and a mimosa. Oh and tell me a pun so I at least know you made it this far? If you're interested in chatting, please send a DM and not a reddit chat(as I can't easily get them on the app I use). Thanks for reading!
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2020.12.03 01:44 sheseeksDaddy 26 [F4M] London middle seeking Daddy x

Hey all! As the title says, I’m seeking a DD/lg relationship in London (no online or outside London). Definitely a chick 😘
No TL;DR - If you’re not willing to read through the wall of text, then you’re not for me x
About me: I’m 26, South East Asian, with average height and build, and I’ve been told I’m pretty (promise I’m not vain). I am masters educated, I work in events and hours can be very odd. I love cooking and baking (especially for others), watching football, cuddling up in front of the tv, walks out in central London, playing CSGO (I’m not great at it though :p). I’m introverted and more of a homebody but I’m sure with Daddy’s encouragement, I’ll be more than happy to do more outdoor activities. I am not into age play in DD/lg - no diapers and the like, I am drawn to the mental aspect. I am based in central London.
What I can bring to the table: - I am very caring and will want to please you and make you happy - I genuinely will take interest in your life and want to help us both grow - I can be quite the bro/sociable and make a good +1 - Due to my Daddy issues and being traditional, I enjoy doing “housewifey” things at home. You’ll be cooked and baked yummy food - I like learning new things so can we talk about almost anything (but no heated debates please!) - Dead bedroom doesn’t exist; I’m quite adventurous and of course, I am a sub
What I’m looking for: In seeking a DD/lg dynamic, I do have Daddy issues which means I need more care than usual. - Someone who has experience in DD/lg, or at least have an interest and researched about it - I need a soft Daddy Dom who is fundamentally kind hearted, empathetic, and patient as I can be difficult when I am emotionally charged. I need a Daddy who will soothe and calm me even when I’m bratty to help change my bratty ways - Strictly 28 to 36 - DDF, hygienic and clean - Have prospects of this turning into a fully fledged relationship; a DD/lg relationship doesn’t have the capacity to blossom if it’s not long term - Someone appreciative, as with an lg wanting to get approval from Daddy, I need to know Daddy is treating me with respect and will shower me with affection when I’ve done good - I am a size queen, so preferably someone bigger than average
What I am not looking for: - Someone who expects me to act like a mature adult all the time. You can’t pick and choose only the good attributes of a little girl - If you are pushy and expect things to be sexual before trust and rapport is established/initial messages focused on sex, please don’t reach out, I won’t respond. Sex is easy to find, a true Daddy is not. Trust is to be earned before any kink comes into play - If you just like being called Daddy but don’t act it, or are just a Dom looking to ruthlessly dominate, you won’t stick around to deal with a brat outside of the bedroom - Anyone married/in a relationship - Someone who wants something casual and superficial
How I see this working out: Hopefully we would dm and take it to video chatting. When comfort is established, Daddy will take me out on a date whereby we’ll see if we get along irl. I don’t mind if you see other people (ethically) as long as we are not in a relationship (yet) as I would like to take time and not rush to find my Daddy. I’d like to meet at least once or twice every 2 weeks or more if we both really enjoy each other’s company :)
Apologies if I am rather direct. I promise I’m a really good girl once our dynamic is established. I touch very little surrounding sex because as I mentioned, sex is is easily available, obviously Daddy will be a Dom as what DD stands for but the emphasis now is on someone who is a Daddy in a sea of Dom(s). I really want to find my Daddy that I can spoil and in return be spoiled - I just hope you’re out there looking for me too xx
Please send me a pm if this is something you’re looking for as well. I will always respond to messages that mirror the effort that I’ve put into my post as it helps me weed out the non-serious ones. So given the length of my post, I am not devoting effort into replying to one or two liners - you have all that you need to know about me, I’m not chasing you to reciprocate.
Please also attach a picture of yourself (obviously your face, not your dick or just body pic) as physical attraction is key. I will reciprocate if I see what I like and let you decide if you like my face too. If you’re unfortunately not my type, please trust my integrity to delete your photo :)
Looking forward to hearing from Daddy!
You future little girl x
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2020.12.03 01:10 RedditSuggestName 38 [F4M] #SoCal4SoCal - LTR. I'm looking for my guy. He'll love cats and dogs, want marriage and kids.

TL;DR: BBW, loves Disneyland, TV and her pets (2 cats and 1 dog); looking for a fellow DDF guy, who wants to get married and have kids in a couple years, too.
My dream is to find the whole 9 yards: friendship, fall in love, get married, raise kids together, with our pets; then we retire someplace warm or with a beach view. Does that sound good to anyone else?
I'm looking for a serious, long term, monogamous relationship.
I hope to meet someone with some similar interests, so we have something in common, but not someone exactly the same as me, because I don't think that'd be interesting or make for a good partnership.
We’d be partners that help each other out, making life more enjoyable along the way.
If my long post is any indication, I’m a chatty texter; I respond as soon as I can. I will send things that remind me of you. Tell you how my day went, will want to hear about yours. I miss waking up to a good morning and ending the day with a good night text.
Apparently I have to say this explicitly. Only message if you are single and are also looking for commitment.
Locals only, because I do want to meet; COVID safe of course.
Be prepared to video chat. I have no desire to be catfished.
If you're allergic to cats and/or dogs, please don't message me. I know from experience, it's not going to go anywhere.
THE LONG POST:
I'll always have indoor pets in my life.
Let's see, I've watched: Ozark, Narcos, Narcos Mexico, Dead to Me, Legacies, Living with Yourself, Preacher, Fleabag, Silicon Valley, Twin Peaks (old, movie and new), Ray Donovan, On Becoming a God in Central FL, Penny Dreadful, The Umbrella Academy, Perry Mason, The Boys, Atlanta, What We Do in the Shadows (still need to watch the movie; it's not on any of my streaming services right now), The Orville, Atypical, rewatching Supernatural.
Honestly, if there isn't at least a plan to meet within a month of talking, I'm out. I'm not looking for a penpal.
(I’m not a cook, so eat out at like Chipotle and poke bowl places.
I like going to fancy restaurants a couple times a year.
I’ll only go to concerts if I’ve got a good seat. This usually means buying the ticket the moment they go on sale. I’m not paying scalper prices.
For travel, I like to do it as economical as possible. Though when I went to Europe, I had the fold down seat on the airplane; no way was I flying 17 hours in economy. But it wasn’t the fanciest seat either; it was the middle version.
I like staying at fancy hotels on occasion, but booked well in advance to get a good deal, which is about $300/night.
I have a Disneyland annual pass, I do get a cheap hotel there on occasion, when I can be there for 2 days in a row; doggy goes with me. Hopefully you’ll have or want a pass too; if you don’t like going, fine, but help buy them for our kids).
We’re adults here; adults pay their own way.
I am NOT looking to be a sugar baby and won’t be someone else’s sugar momma.
Only a guy willing to to get an STD test and wear condoms gets to touch me.
I'm not into any pain, only pleasure, for both parties.
No, I’m not looking for anything casual or a FWB. No we would not see if we’re sexually compatible out on the first few dates.
Sex is an important part of a lasting relationship, but it’s not the only thing. We have to click elsewhere before we get to sex.
Honestly, if we can't have sex at your place, then this isn't going to work out. I'm extremely tired of talking to guys who have all these seemingly reasonable parent/sibling reasons why I can't go to their place. I've had enough. It now sounds to me like these guys are really married and trying to find an unwitting mistress. I’m sorry if that isn’t you. I tried keeping an open mind, but I can’t do that anymore.
I love the idea of each of us having a private space to go to if we just need some alone time. I think that’ll be important when we have kids, and are 10+ years into this.
Honestly, the thought of sharing a bathroom again terrifies me. I think that if it was the social norm for everyone to have their own bathroom, the divorce rate would go way down.
I am looking forward to cuddling before we fall asleep and when we wake up, and having sexevery day, ha
I do need to be with someone who is okay with my animals sleeping in the room. My dog sleeps on his own side of my king sized bed. One cat usually sleeps on her own, but about 5 am, insists on sleeping on my feet. The other cat is a loaner. He sleep downstairs usually; on occasion he’ll sleep next to the dog.
Hopefully we can find some kind of compromise; maybe move to a duplex or we'd have a very big home, with a master bedroom, with attached his and her bathrooms.
Thank you for reading. I know this was long, but I know what I want. Has anyone seen the great early 2010s show Happy Endings? There’s a quote that I think describes what I’m looking for. Someone to realize: “I found a woman who was so sure of what she wanted, and she wanted me.” Brad to wife Jane, S2E18 ‘Party of Six.’
In the subject line, or first line of the chat, please put your eye color. This helps me weed through the guys who only claim to read my post. And if you really want me to respond, then mention things that we have in common. I’ve included more than enough things to kick off a conversation.
Those who need NOT apply:
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2020.12.02 23:08 Ps5_please Anyone looking to meet new people?

Oh I hope I don’t come across as being desperate & lonely by posting this lol. I am in my mid twenties, graduated UCF in 18 (Psych Major). I used to use the dating apps to meet people (friends included on Bumble) but certainly has not been successful. I know COVID is a roadblock but anyone interested in just talking? We can’t socialize like we used to haha. I like video games (look at my username), cooking/baking, kind of a homebody. Lemme know :)
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2020.12.02 19:56 choukelie 26 [F4F] Texas (online) weirdo looking for girlfriend

Hello everyone! Like the title says, I am a 26 year old woman looking for a girlfriend. I live in Texas with my boyfriend of 2+ years now and our two dogs.
A little bit about me: I love youtube. I watch let’s play videos in my free time & attend Vidcon every year. I also like video games, cooking, binge watching trashy reality tv, any sort of true crime docs, and dancing around my house. I absolutely hoard comfort items (blankets, candles, plushies, etc.) I used to go out of state once a month for different concerts / events before Covid! I really love music as well. I went through a scene phase in my teen years. Lol I’m currently in college & on my way to becoming a forensic accountant.
My ideal partner is someone who encourages me, likes to give and receive praise (I love to hype my partners up but sometimes I need it too), is okay with being a bit of a homebody but still adventurous, and is very open and honest with communication. 420 friendly is kind of a big deal. You don’t have to partake, but be open minded about it.
I’m looking for a girlfriend for myself, if things go well, you could date my boyfriend too, but it is not at all a requirement! I would prefer to date someone in the United States that I can start an online relationship with and eventually meet. If you live in Texas, that’s just a plus! Bonus points if you also have a boyfriend / husband that mine can hang out with while we go on dates. (Again, not a requirement though)
I swear I’m a lot more interesting than I make myself sound. Lol. Please reach out to me if you think we could be a good fit or have any questions! :) I look forward to hearing from you.
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2020.12.02 19:00 relationshipsGPT2Bot How do I handle my (32/M) new GF's (26/F) new boyfriend?

Hi,
First time posting on Reddit. I am new here and I had no idea where to post this.

I recently met a girl on a dating site. I am a 32 year old male who is dating a 26 year old female. Both of us are married with 2 children. We talked for about 3 months before we met up and got to know each other. She was very nice and we hit it off immediately. We were together for 2 months before we decided to move in together.

I live in Texas and she resides in another state across the country. We live together and I pay all the bills, even though she has a full time job and I am not on a lot of time off.

I've never lived with a woman before, and I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I would like to know a few things. I am very much a homebody. I like to spend time at home by myself, with a good book, or a few beers. I like to be the center of attention. I am the primary caregiver in the relationship. I was really hoping to start getting back into the dating scene once I finish school. I am really looking for a long term loving relationship that will last several years. She is a very kind and loving person, but she is not the type of person that is looking for a one time thing.

I really want to know if anyone has some advice for me.
I have 2 main questions. I need to know if this is a good fit.
  1. Is this a good time to start thinking about getting back on my feet? I am very much looking for something long term.
  2. Does she know about my age? If she did, does she want to date me?

Thank you for your time.

Much love.


**TLDR** I'm in a new relationship. I need advice on how to navigate this relationship.

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2020.12.01 18:08 dammitgale I enjoy my solitude.

I’m not sure whether this is a bad thing, but I enjoy my solitude. I enjoy being at home, alone with just my sons company. I also do enjoy going out, but just the two of us. I do have play dates with my best friend and her daughter, but they are also homebodies so it’s usually just us as her apartment with the kids. Don’t get me wrong, I am around family/friends when asked to. But I much rather prefer staying at home. What’s my idea of a good time? Being at home, painting, music in the background. Watching movies with my son. I’ve come to enjoy my own company. I get easily overwhelmed with too many people. A day of interaction is so exhausting. I usually can’t wait to get home and just decompress. I can only do a max of 4 or 5 hours of being out, then I get aggravated and want to just be home. I’m not sure whether this is normal or not, but I’ve come to terms with this is me, take it or leave it. My family always made me feel bad about it, and I have also felt bad for it, but this is just the way I am. I’ve come to accept it.
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2020.12.01 04:11 HatAccomplished 30 [M4F] Anywhere - This whole thing has made me realize I would absolutely love a traditional 1950s wife and a wholesome life. Whose in?

So, being stuck inside and having a lot of time to reflect has made me realize a few things about myself. Namely, I just want someone to be cute, wholesome, romantic and fun with.
The more I look back on it, the more I realize dating is so strange these days. Everyone is in a rush, there is so much tension, people are terrified of labels, commitment fear seems to be a real thing. Everything seems so intense, but in the wrong ways. What I want is a nice woman I can commit my life too, in the most relaxed way possible.
Ideally, we just end up having a traditional type of life. I know that has negative connotations these days, and I mean absolutely nothing against feminism or choice, but what is wrong with having a cute, traditional wife to come home too? Someone who loves cooking dinners, baking things, hosting little parties, planning our presents, and so on. Who wouldn't mind just being a homebody and making our house her vision of perfect, and be happy that I'm able to provide for both of us.
Of course, I'm not asking you to quit your jobs or anything. If you love what you do, and you're ambitious and driven and want that, that is great too! But can't we just have a white picket fence, big backyard, some dogs, and just a more..calm home? A place we can sit on our porch and just make out while we watch the sun set, or have picnics in our backyard and take naps in the middle of the day.
The truth is, I work hard. I work really hard, and I'm busy often. I invest my money well, I think long term, and I'm a pretty stable person. As this whole thing has unfolded, I realized I've been looking forward so often that I didn't realize I could just make my dreams happen...well, now.
So let's chat. Let's fall madly inlove. Let's talk about what dogs we want, where we want to travel to first, what sort home we want. Let's get obsessed with eachother and send our entire backlog of selfies, and find excuses to take more. Let's explore eachother's hobbies and learn. Let's go on hikes and just kiss at the top. Let's be swolemates at the gym and hit new PRs, then work on meal prep together. Let's help eachother reach all individual goals, and then go even higher. Let's be the best team ever.
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2020.12.01 04:10 HatAccomplished 30 [M4F] Anywhere - This whole thing has made me realize I would absolutely love a traditional 1950s wife and a wholesome life. Whose in?

So, being stuck inside and having a lot of time to reflect has made me realize a few things about myself. Namely, I just want someone to be cute, wholesome, romantic and fun with.
The more I look back on it, the more I realize dating is so strange these days. Everyone is in a rush, there is so much tension, people are terrified of labels, commitment fear seems to be a real thing. Everything seems so intense, but in the wrong ways. What I want is a nice woman I can commit my life too, in the most relaxed way possible.
Ideally, we just end up having a traditional type of life. I know that has negative connotations these days, and I mean absolutely nothing against feminism or choice, but what is wrong with having a cute, traditional wife to come home too? Someone who loves cooking dinners, baking things, hosting little parties, planning our presents, and so on. Who wouldn't mind just being a homebody and making our house her vision of perfect, and be happy that I'm able to provide for both of us.
Of course, I'm not asking you to quit your jobs or anything. If you love what you do, and you're ambitious and driven and want that, that is great too! But can't we just have a white picket fence, big backyard, some dogs, and just a more..calm home? A place we can sit on our porch and just make out while we watch the sun set, or have picnics in our backyard and take naps in the middle of the day.
The truth is, I work hard. I work really hard, and I'm busy often. I invest my money well, I think long term, and I'm a pretty stable person. As this whole thing has unfolded, I realized I've been looking forward so often that I didn't realize I could just make my dreams happen...well, now.
So let's chat. Let's fall madly inlove. Let's talk about what dogs we want, where we want to travel to first, what sort home we want. Let's get obsessed with eachother and send our entire backlog of selfies, and find excuses to take more. Let's explore eachother's hobbies and learn. Let's go on hikes and just kiss at the top. Let's be swolemates at the gym and hit new PRs, then work on meal prep together. Let's help eachother reach all individual goals, and then go even higher. Let's be the best team ever.
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2020.12.01 04:09 HatAccomplished 30 [M4F] Anywhere - This whole thing has made me realize I would absolutely love a traditional 1950s wife and a wholesome life. Whose in?

So, being stuck inside and having a lot of time to reflect has made me realize a few things about myself. Namely, I just want someone to be cute, wholesome, romantic and fun with.
The more I look back on it, the more I realize dating is so strange these days. Everyone is in a rush, there is so much tension, people are terrified of labels, commitment fear seems to be a real thing. Everything seems so intense, but in the wrong ways. What I want is a nice woman I can commit my life too, in the most relaxed way possible.
Ideally, we just end up having a traditional type of life. I know that has negative connotations these days, and I mean absolutely nothing against feminism or choice, but what is wrong with having a cute, traditional wife to come home too? Someone who loves cooking dinners, baking things, hosting little parties, planning our presents, and so on. Who wouldn't mind just being a homebody and making our house her vision of perfect, and be happy that I'm able to provide for both of us.
Of course, I'm not asking you to quit your jobs or anything. If you love what you do, and you're ambitious and driven and want that, that is great too! But can't we just have a white picket fence, big backyard, some dogs, and just a more..calm home? A place we can sit on our porch and just make out while we watch the sun set, or have picnics in our backyard and take naps in the middle of the day.
The truth is, I work hard. I work really hard, and I'm busy often. I invest my money well, I think long term, and I'm a pretty stable person. As this whole thing has unfolded, I realized I've been looking forward so often that I didn't realize I could just make my dreams happen...well, now.
So let's chat. Let's fall madly inlove. Let's talk about what dogs we want, where we want to travel to first, what sort home we want. Let's get obsessed with eachother and send our entire backlog of selfies, and find excuses to take more. Let's explore eachother's hobbies and learn. Let's go on hikes and just kiss at the top. Let's be swolemates at the gym and hit new PRs, then work on meal prep together. Let's help eachother reach all individual goals, and then go even higher. Let's be the best team ever.
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2020.12.01 03:36 cursedunluck 28[M4F] - FL/US/INTERNATIONAL - Genuine, Steady, Building Something Real. No Games, Just All The Way 100.

Reposting in hopes someone not interested in wasting my time sees this (a few people already have wasted mine). Just because it's reddit doesn't mean we can't be serious. I'm not here for games or wasting anyone's time or energy. I'm willing to relocate to places like the UK or Japan, EU, or even elsewhere in the US at some point in a somewhat distant future. Even if we're not in the same state, feel free to MESSAGE or CHAT me if anything here appeals to you instead of commenting to reply. The "About Me" is at the bottom.
About Me: Hispanic, 6'0" tall, bi-lingual and inconsistently learning two more languages. Hilarious and will roast you healthily. I have several love languages, I play but a few video games, I love anime and manga, I don't mind a good musical, I enjoy being put on to new things like books or films or shows or anything cultural. I love cats and I like dogs because pets are great. I make music as a career path primarily but I also am hoping to publish a novel in the near future. I'm originally from New York City so yes I have the accent--no, it's not the exaggerated Hollywood version--and yes, I have a deep, husky, sleepy voice. I am also down to move to discord for a bit to voice call if we're clicking but I am in no rush to trade selfies or facetime for a reason I will confess to you in private. I also am not a concert goer not partier, and am very much a homebody who is starting a travel fund so I can get some stamps in my passport finally.
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2020.11.30 03:54 AdditionalDistance41 20M cub, seeking cougar

Hello! I’m a 20 yr old dude from the east coast and you probably know why I’m here lol. I’ve always wanted to date a nice, strong woman. A woman who has been around the block once or twice and knows the game of life. A woman I can learn from.
A little about me:
I’m a homebody. Not the type to party From the southeastern US I might seem shy but I’m not once you get to know me I come off as nonchalant because I try to stay calm and relaxed to avoid stress I’m a really understanding person Trust and honesty is big with me As a southern boy I love sports and exercise I’m big on football
If there’s anything else you want to know please ask. Hope to hear from you soon
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2020.11.30 02:00 bitesandbruises 31 [M4F] Washington DC DMV MD VA - Looking for an ambitious, educated, comic book nerd to take over the world with me!

About me:
I'm 31, 5'9-5'10, average build, olive skin, hairy chest, bearded (sometimes longer, sometimes clean shaven, currently - trimmed and I've finally cut my corona-hair haha), glasses, nerdy, educated, and in my own opinion, quite cute and attractive!
For work, I have spent the past few years, after law school, on the front lines of entrepreneurship and have loved it! My companies either winded up, dissolved, or we otherwise stopped production. I have since started working at a law firm, but I hate the legal field. My original plan was to have a new job by November, but Corona kinda messed up all my 2020 plans so I might not have the new job I want till next year (I have a plan and get go into full detail of that if you're curious!). For now, it's ok because I actually like my boss a lot (which I know is rare) and don't mind working here an extra 6 months or so.
Outside of work and entrepreneurship, I am a big media buff. Movies, music, video games, tv shows, books, I'll consume any media that's good. Being a big nerd, I tend to lean towards fantasy, and sci fi over most other genres, but I seriously love anything good (rom coms are my guilty pleasure). Currently watching: rewatching some old shows and anime I liked till I find something new. Currently reading: finished most all of the Cosmere books and am rereading the Stormlight Archive in preparation for Book 4 this year (if you know about this series of series, then beaucoup points to you!). Currently playing: Some League of Legends and some Among Us.
I build my own computers, I'm a big tech nerd, I'm into high fashion, cooking, exercise, hiking, I enjoy travelling, but I am definitely on the introverted side, and as much as going out on the town sounds nice, I usually prefer a quiet night in as I'm a homebody. I live near DC and DC is such a great foodie city, so I do love my good (and sometimes weird) food!
Though I describe myself as an introvert and homebody, I do love to go out and do things, they're just my second choice to staying home and chilling with warm drink (or chilled whisky), soft music, and a fire in the hearth. Though, for now, I don't need to go anywhere cause of the pandemic, I'm happy to just talk a walk in a park or something if I want/need to get some fresh air. That being said, Corona lockdowns make me miss the nights at dives and bars and just going to random places with friends.
My love languages are all of them! I love physical affection and enjoy just passively touching my partner, doing little things for her, and more. I tend to put 110% into my relationships, few as they have been, and so, just enjoy my partner's time, touch, and presence. Some people may not like this, but it's just how I'm built and how I show affection.
Sexually, I'm into lots and can be quite kinky, but my kinks generally mirror my partner's. If it's something you're genuinely into, I'll be into it as well, no matter how tame or extreme it may seem. My only limits are permanent damage and other partners. I don't like to share and don't like to be shared. I've also learned that this is pretty important to me, not necessarily being kinky per se (though it's a huge bonus), but being open minded enough to try new (and sometimes maybe weird) things in the bedroom.
I believe being open minded, both sexually and not, is an amazing quality, so I try to always be open minded and try most anything - food, sex, random experiences - at least twice before writing it off.
What I'm looking:
Primarily, a woman who can stick by my side, keep up with me (or someone I can strive to keep up with) and build an empire with me. I'm looking for something serious, and long term, though I don't like to put tons of pressure on things and enjoy a natural progression, so I prefer to move at a pace we're both comfortable with (however fast or slow that may be) - I really just want to get to know each other. That being said, if I'm into someone, I love to chat with them (I'm a big texter), and really just enjoy as much of their company as I can get.
I'm looking for someone to call mine, and I want a girl that will call me her's. It would be awesome to find an equally ambitious woman who is also a supernerd like me! Though it's not necessary to be nerdy at all, it'd be a big bonus!
The reason I'm posting to reddit in the first place is that, it's been very hard to find the kind of woman I think I can truly build something serious and long lasting with. I've been dating here and there over the past couple of years, and have yet to encounter someone who is good for me, and I, good for her.
I hope to find an ambitious, driven, educated woman. I think it's good to be realistic and open about the kind of life and lifestyle one wants to live - I want to live a big life with lots of cool stuff and opportunities, with a woman that wants to be a partner with me and help build that shared life up. Type A power couple in the streets, bites and bruises in the sheets, sounds like heaven to me. Big shot doctors, high powered lawyers, boss executives - these are the kinds of women I'm attracted to. I know it takes a lot of work and a lot of time to reach those levels, I'm still on the path myself, but that drive and that energy is what I'm looking for, even if you're still in school I don't mind much.
In terms of distance, I heavily heavily prefer someone near me. If not near me then someone who is open to adding "pick up life and move" in their life goals. I wouldn't mind moving either, but I would need the right opportunities in/near your city. So I don't think I could move outside of the US as my skills, education, and experience would mean extremely little outside the States.
I'd love to say more, but this is already long enough! This should give you an idea of the kind of guy I am and what I'm looking for. I think about things a lot, I put a lot of effort into my work, my leisures, and my relationships.
I know this sounds like a lot, and I don't know if I'll find my partner on Reddit, but you never know where you'll find someone, right? Which means you need to look everywhere! Is it you? Are you her? Am I the one you've been seeking? Send me a message if you think we'd be a great match! Not to mention it's still 2020, and a good time to just text with someone and get to know them!
Happy to chat on most any platform you prefer! Though I have a preference for discord. Thanks for reading this all, it means a lot! I hope to hear from you~~
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2020.11.30 02:00 bitesandbruises 31 [M4F] Washington DC DMV MD VA - Looking for an ambitious, educated, comic book nerd to take over the world with me!

About me:
I'm 31, 5'9-5'10, average build, olive skin, hairy chest, bearded (sometimes longer, sometimes clean shaven, currently - trimmed and I've finally cut my corona-hair haha), glasses, nerdy, educated, and in my own opinion, quite cute and attractive!
For work, I have spent the past few years, after law school, on the front lines of entrepreneurship and have loved it! My companies either winded up, dissolved, or we otherwise stopped production. I have since started working at a law firm, but I hate the legal field. My original plan was to have a new job by November, but Corona kinda messed up all my 2020 plans so I might not have the new job I want till next year (I have a plan and get go into full detail of that if you're curious!). For now, it's ok because I actually like my boss a lot (which I know is rare) and don't mind working here an extra 6 months or so.
Outside of work and entrepreneurship, I am a big media buff. Movies, music, video games, tv shows, books, I'll consume any media that's good. Being a big nerd, I tend to lean towards fantasy, and sci fi over most other genres, but I seriously love anything good (rom coms are my guilty pleasure). Currently watching: rewatching some old shows and anime I liked till I find something new. Currently reading: finished most all of the Cosmere books and am rereading the Stormlight Archive in preparation for Book 4 this year (if you know about this series of series, then beaucoup points to you!). Currently playing: Some League of Legends and some Among Us.
I build my own computers, I'm a big tech nerd, I'm into high fashion, cooking, exercise, hiking, I enjoy travelling, but I am definitely on the introverted side, and as much as going out on the town sounds nice, I usually prefer a quiet night in as I'm a homebody. I live near DC and DC is such a great foodie city, so I do love my good (and sometimes weird) food!
Though I describe myself as an introvert and homebody, I do love to go out and do things, they're just my second choice to staying home and chilling with warm drink (or chilled whisky), soft music, and a fire in the hearth. Though, for now, I don't need to go anywhere cause of the pandemic, I'm happy to just talk a walk in a park or something if I want/need to get some fresh air. That being said, Corona lockdowns make me miss the nights at dives and bars and just going to random places with friends.
My love languages are all of them! I love physical affection and enjoy just passively touching my partner, doing little things for her, and more. I tend to put 110% into my relationships, few as they have been, and so, just enjoy my partner's time, touch, and presence. Some people may not like this, but it's just how I'm built and how I show affection.
Sexually, I'm into lots and can be quite kinky, but my kinks generally mirror my partner's. If it's something you're genuinely into, I'll be into it as well, no matter how tame or extreme it may seem. My only limits are permanent damage and other partners. I don't like to share and don't like to be shared. I've also learned that this is pretty important to me, not necessarily being kinky per se (though it's a huge bonus), but being open minded enough to try new (and sometimes maybe weird) things in the bedroom.
I believe being open minded, both sexually and not, is an amazing quality, so I try to always be open minded and try most anything - food, sex, random experiences - at least twice before writing it off.
What I'm looking:
First, I know I'm posting on r4r30+ but I'd prefer to date someone my age or younger.
Primarily, a woman who can stick by my side, keep up with me (or someone I can strive to keep up with) and build an empire with me. I'm looking for something serious, and long term, though I don't like to put tons of pressure on things and enjoy a natural progression, so I prefer to move at a pace we're both comfortable with (however fast or slow that may be) - I really just want to get to know each other. That being said, if I'm into someone, I love to chat with them (I'm a big texter), and really just enjoy as much of their company as I can get.
I'm looking for someone to call mine, and I want a girl that will call me her's. It would be awesome to find an equally ambitious woman who is also a supernerd like me! Though it's not necessary to be nerdy at all, it'd be a big bonus!
The reason I'm posting to reddit in the first place is that, it's been very hard to find the kind of woman I think I can truly build something serious and long lasting with. I've been dating here and there over the past couple of years, and have yet to encounter someone who is good for me, and I, good for her.
I hope to find an ambitious, driven, educated woman. I think it's good to be realistic and open about the kind of life and lifestyle one wants to live - I want to live a big life with lots of cool stuff and opportunities, with a woman that wants to be a partner with me and help build that shared life up. Type A power couple in the streets, bites and bruises in the sheets, sounds like heaven to me. Big shot doctors, high powered lawyers, boss executives - these are the kinds of women I'm attracted to. I know it takes a lot of work and a lot of time to reach those levels, I'm still on the path myself, but that drive and that energy is what I'm looking for, even if you're still in school I don't mind much.
In terms of distance, I heavily heavily prefer someone near me. If not near me then someone who is open to adding "pick up life and move" in their life goals. I wouldn't mind moving either, but I would need the right opportunities in/near your city. So I don't think I could move outside of the US as my skills, education, and experience would mean extremely little outside the States, though I would bee open to moving most anywhere in the States that can offer me the right positions.
I'd love to say more, but this is already long enough! This should give you an idea of the kind of guy I am and what I'm looking for. I think about things a lot, I put a lot of effort into my work, my leisures, and my relationships.
I know this sounds like a lot, and I don't know if I'll find my partner on Reddit, but you never know where you'll find someone, right? Which means you need to look everywhere! Is it you? Are you her? Am I the one you've been seeking? Send me a message if you think we'd be a great match! Not to mention it's still 2020, and a good time to just text with someone and get to know them!
Happy to chat on most any platform you prefer! Though I have a preference for discord. Thanks for reading this all, it means a lot! I hope to hear from you~~
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2020.11.29 16:11 TestGood Would you date me after this?

TDLR: met an amazing guy at a friends party and threw up in front of him because I got too drunk.
I guess this is more of a question for the guys.
About a month ago, I (28F) was at a friends small birthday gathering and was introduced to this guy (29M). He’s physically my type down to T, so I tactfully sat next to him during a game of poker, and initiated a conversation.
There was an instant chemistry, he made me laugh and we connected on an intellectual level. We were probably sat there for 2 hours just engrossed in conversation, and with each other. He said he would like to take me on a date and gave me his number.
As the night went on my friend would bring me drinks and I would happily accept. It’s important to note that I’m not much of a drinker (only drink on special occasions like birthdays, holidays etc.). So I get drunk probably 4-5 times a year max. Therefore, I’m a bit of a lightweight, but normally I know my limits. I think you can see where this is going...
The rest of the night is a blur but my friend filled me in the next day and told me I was sat in the garden throwing up on my shoes. To make things worst, this guy was sat with me and called an uber and apparently had to go into my purse to get the address from my driving licence (which is sweet) because I probably was too drunk to tell him. It’s safe to say, I am mortified.
However, my dilemma is that I have his number and he doesn’t have mine. Which means I have to initiate contact. But I have been putting it off because if I was him, I’d find my behaviour so unattractive.
I think what makes things worst is that we were both talking about how we are more homebodies and enjoy the simple things like long walks in the countryside, and that we’re over wild nights (which is true) and then there’s me... three hours later being sent home in an uber with a plastic bag.
So my question is: if you saw a girl you liked throw up the first night you met her, would you still find her attractive and be inclined to want to meet her again??
I know the polite thing to do would have been to text him and thank him for paying for my ride home but I was so embarrassed that I didn’t even want to bring it up! So now that I’ve left it this long, he probably thinks I don’t even have manners! It has been nearly a month, but I live in London and we are currently in lockdown, so I could use that as an excuse why I didn’t get in contact sooner?
Apologies, I’m aware this is all over the place. I’m not normally like this. I’m very confident and have no issue approaching men or initiating contact. But I can’t help but feel set up for rejection in this particular scenario. Thoughts?
Edit: I realise now that it’s annoying to some people to post in this forum when I’m not quite 30 yet. Sometimes I feel like I can relate more to the scenarios here, than in the popular dating forums. But from now on I will lurk and comment but not post.
However, I’m grateful for the advice, here’s an update: https://www.reddit.com/datingoverthirty/comments/k6l7la/update_would_you_date_me_after_this/
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